When you become aware of another in a dilemma of some kind and for them it’s so heavy they can only naturally share some burden so as to ease the load. Not always do they want advice and direction. Yet we can so easily jump in to dosomething to help them, by not just listening and allowing them to vent of this weighted burden, we then start to speak, we advice, criticiseadd our opinions, thinking we are helping, but we are blocking the other persons flow and only keep the unhealthy fire burning by adding some fuel. Even if a situation arose that you knew the person was in conflict with, but never discussed it or addressed there even was a issue or conflict happening.
it is so easy to offer advice, an therefore stop the natural flow.
when we try to help, and from a good place, it doesn’t allow the other to go through life’s struggles, learn and become strong and wise because of them.
to help a butterfly from its chrysalis during its brief struggle to get out, would only make it weak. Through struggle the butterfly strengthens itself and it’s wings, like a good work out in the gym
without this struggle it would be weak and unable to fly, and lose what would have been beautiful.
we actually help mostly through fear, and a need to protect.
if we allowed a fully trusted in life just like animals do, then fear would not exist.
To hold space for someone is to be a standing rock, who listens without input but with compassion and understanding so the other feels heard.
They would feel so lighter without hard input added. A simple nod of the head or a cuddle and love, supporting them and telling them everything will be ok, would mean so much.
Be the rock, the strength, the space for them to breathe. We so easily do the wrong thing thinking we are doing the right thing. Times are changing now and we understand more. A whole new way to teach the youngster though.
On Feb 18, 2020 maria wrote :
it is so easy to offer advice, an therefore stop the natural flow.
when we try to help, and from a good place, it doesn’t allow the other to go through life’s struggles, learn and become strong and wise because of them.
to help a butterfly from its chrysalis during its brief struggle to get out, would only make it weak. Through struggle the butterfly strengthens itself and it’s wings, like a good work out in the gym
without this struggle it would be weak and unable to fly, and lose what would have been beautiful.
we actually help mostly through fear, and a need to protect.
if we allowed a fully trusted in life just like animals do, then fear would not exist.
To hold space for someone is to be a standing rock, who listens without input but with compassion and understanding so the other feels heard.
They would feel so lighter without hard input added. A simple nod of the head or a cuddle and love, supporting them and telling them everything will be ok, would mean so much.
Be the rock, the strength, the space for them to breathe. We so easily do the wrong thing thinking we are doing the right thing. Times are changing now and we understand more. A whole new way to teach the youngster though.