The Mystery of Love

I fell in love with this person and it lasted just 21 days... This was my second attempt at relationship. I was very skeptical about it at the begining... our sunsign did not match (so teenage like!) but he made me believe that I can trust what we created between us.

The relationship helped me discover such beautiful aspect of myself which I either was not aware of or was not accepting about. It made me fall in love with myself and the inner beauty in me. And this was happening for the first time in my life, yes I was loving myself and was completely accepting of 'me'.

In the middle of third week, he started becoming aloof... he was going through rough phase but towards the end I could sense that it was going no where. So when I asked him he said that it was not working out for him... he did not give me any reason for calling it off and gave me two comments - he said that he felt that spark was gone and that I was like his mirror image.

For me spark comes, stays and goes to come back again... what one need is endless hope and unquestionable commitment to enjoy the spark till it is there and to bring it back when it is gone... It is easy to start a relation and to end one... but to sustain one is the task which requires complete you and you forever... with your beauty and with the ugly too, with complete honesty... to celebrate the positives and accept the downs, fully

And today I am out of my last relation with great amount of positivity because I gave everything that I had... I did not hold back anything to first test if it will last and then give, or held myself to protect from the hurt I will feel if it would go away after having given myself completely. I believed in it with my eyes closed... and when it went away I felt sad and then I decided that I will live all my relations that I have in my life to the fullest because it is so fulfilling an experience... and today I am connecting to my folks and friends like I never did before... the process which started with the news of loosing a friend in an accident has moved to next level of enriching my life with positive experiences.

And I am thankful to God and feel really blessed to have been bestowed by such experiences and realisations...

Love

Gulrez

 I really connect with the statement "the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away."

It is not only that love chooses me, i feel it has always chosen me except that I have to unlearn everything that is in the way to experience the choice. When I choose to intellectualize, when I focus on looking good, when I react instead of stepping back -- then it is difficult for me to feel the love.

I recently had an experience to go to a healing poetry session with my wife and in two days, I ended up writing more poetry than I did my entire life. When I was experiencing emotion, expression burst out of me. Then I wanted to write poems so that I can be a poet -- it has been a month and not a single poem is written!

Same thing with love. As I present? Am I aware? Am I willing? Am I accepting what love offers? if the answer is yes, yes, yes -- then you are in love!

 love is  nothing but life.even a crawling insect is carrying a message that he is in love.love is reverence for life.everyone knows what love is.only whogives tolife life really loes.he really loves.u forego food to feed someone who is hungry u will instantly know what love is.rumi is right when he says none willever know what love is unless he lives for others.west is  under  curse due  to overeating.east is also following the wrong route.eat forests/oceans/ allmarine life/birds. wars /terrorism is allonly to eat and grab. so where anyone willever find love.

love will come by giving.give your passions/appetites/greed.

give self ,be selfless/ give love and u will find love.love comes only by giving .

sufi say by dying. dying to self/ego  and u will know what love is.feed ants/dogs/birds/ destitute/

suffer for others and u will know what love is.u dont need a schoolto teach u to love.your soul is always  seeking love. but u always walk in opposite direction to find it.

 Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it  comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. [...] Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

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 Metta-morphosis

What I am learning these days is that love is *not* something that just visits us temporarily.  It's who we are...all the time.  We may be blind to it much of the time, but then it unveils itself to us in a moment of grace.  But it is always there.  Many times I feel overflowing love for no thing or no one in particular...in the most random moments.  That seems like one of those moments of grace.  And that's one way I know that love is always alive in me, as opposed to being a "visitor" that is just here to stay for a short while.  So, I think I *can* choose love by consciously accessing that ocean of love that I'm swimming in.  This is the love that can experience itself without needing a person or a thing to bring it alive.

Seeking or needing love from another is one very good strategy for becoming blind to the love within us.  I have experienced this many times...seeking love, feeling needy of it, looking for it from the outside.  In my experience, that blinds me to experiencing the perfect love that I am residing in.  I'm looking for someone to give me what I already am!  And in that state, when I am not experiencing the love that I already am, it is impossible to give love to another.

I think the reason we think love comes and goes is because the people or things that bring it alive in us come and go.  But really, it's always there.  It's ALWAYS there!  :)

1. Gopi prem is true unconditional love it relates to all age s  all emotion and feelings we human experience .its song of Heart everlasting,it is softer then rose petal, and stronger then anything in infinite universe,It gives and in giving it multiplies ,hollywood and Bollywood is full of Love songs and classik  love stories. Its Symphony  that Never ends        my math in life re. Love =       

love+love=I love you,you love me----------   means I love you because you love me =worldly love              2.I love you regrdless you love me or not=unconditional love   3 whe you give love it multiplies if we keep multiplying we will come to infinte nothing but loves any whare and every place and in sky in us like fish in the water . kabirdasji explains very simple example we seeking joy of love is like fish living in water and always Thirsty or thtat example Re. Deer wondering in jungle  seeking that intoxicating good smell that exist inside him  love always navin   this topic can be shared by each one of us and we will be more thirsty like fish in the water lets dive in life of love ocen experiance it moment to moment and get totally Absorb in it then in silence of lovinHeart ???? 

Somik you have my gratitude for giving me the opportunity to share.

I get a high when I give a hungry person food. I love the idea of love. I don't practice it is much as I think about it. I am enamored with the words: "Where there is hatred, let me bring love, where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; wherethere  is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadness, joy." Francis of Assisi also said: "May I not so much seek to be consoled, as to console. To be understood, as to understand. To be loved, as to love. For it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and that is in dying that we are born.

I also think the words of William Penn express love when he said: "I will pass this way but once. Any good, therefore, that I may do, or any kindness that I may show, to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it for I shall not pass this way again.

A way of practicing love for yourself is as Sheldon Kopp said: "Learn to forgive yourself again, and again, and again.

Once we connect to the notion that all there is is Love, and rest in that stunning realization, the world takes on a brighter hue and fuller tone.  We ‘see’ more.  Sunrises and sunsets are glowing.  Bird songs are musical beyond comprehension.  We have a deep connection to the life giving force of Mother Nature.   We are open to and at peace with others.  We tend to stand taller.  We tend to open the heart center, and roll shoulders back and down.  We tend to breathe deeper.  We tend to be at ease, fully present, in a calm state.  We tend to think more with the heart, with our center, and stay longer out of the head.  We listen deeply and intently in each conversation.  Our gratitude surrounds us with Light; a deep glow shines from within.  Each breath is full and fulfilling.  And we let it be.

Once we connect to the notion that all there is is Love, and rest in that stunning realization that we are exactly where we are supposed to be, doing what we are supposed to be doing, and that we are enough in that endeavor, it seems everything embraces and nurtures and supports us…we become Love.  The mysterious part of this whole process can be how long it may take.  We can witness this in a small child, and on the death bed.  We can examine a life well lived and enlightened, and a life squandered by ignorance.  We move more intuitively through the day.  We can see how connecting to our passion brings serenity to our own countenance in our youth, or in mid life, or toward the end of this life.

This connection/union/yoking/trust…Love…lets go of judgment, competition, blame, guilt, expectation…and brings peace, always peace.