To Be Continually Thrown Out Of The Nest
Ser expulsad@ continuamente del nido--por Pema Chodron
Creemos que si simplemente meditáramos lo suficiente o saliésemos a correr lo suficiente o comiéramos comida perfecta, todo sería perfecto. Pero desde el punto de vista de alguien que está despierto, eso es la muerte. Buscar seguridad o perfección, regocijarse en sentirse confirmad@ y complet@, autónom@ y cómod@, es algún tipo de muerte. No tiene aire fresco. No hay espacio para que algo entre e interrumpa todo eso. Estamos matando el momento controlando nuestra experiencia. Hacer esto es prepararnos para el fracaso, porque tarde o temprano, tendremos una experiencia que no podremos controlar: nuestra casa se va a quemar, alguien a quien amamos va a morir, nos van a diagnosticar un cáncer, un ladrillo caerá del cielo y nos golpeará en la cabeza, alguien derramará zumo de tomate sobre nuestro traje blanco, o llegaremos a nuestro restaurante favorito y descubriremos que no han hecho el pedido de productos y tienen setecientas personas para comer.
La esencia de la vida es que es desafiante. A veces es dulce, y a veces es amarga. Algunas veces tu cuerpo se tensa y otras veces se relaja o se abre. A veces tienes dolor de cabeza, y a veces te sientes 100 por cien saludable. Desde una perspectiva despierta, tratar de atar todos los cabos sueltos y finalmente arreglarlo es la muerte, porque implica rechazar una gran parte de tu experiencia básica. Hay algo agresivo en ese enfoque de vida, tratando de allanar todos los puntos difíciles e imperfecciones y tener un viaje agradable y suave.
Estar completamente vivo, ser completamente humano y estar completamente despierto es ser expulsad@ continuamente del nido. Vivir plenamente es estar siempre en tierra de nadie, experimentar cada momento como algo completamente nuevo y fresco. Vivir es estar dispuest@ a morir una y otra vez. Desde el punto de vista despierto, eso es la vida.
La forma de disolver nuestra resistencia a la vida es enfrentarla cara a cara. Cuando sentimos resentimiento porque la habitación está demasiado caliente, podríamos enfrentar el calor y sentir su ardor y su pesadez. Cuando sentimos resentimiento porque la habitación está demasiado fría, podríamos enfrentar el frío y sentir su frío y su mordisco. Cuando queremos quejarnos de la lluvia, podemos sentir su humedad. Cuando nos preocupamos porque el viento está sacudiendo nuestras ventanas, podríamos encontrarnos con el viento y escuchar su sonido. Cortar nuestras expectativas para sanar es un regalo que nos podemos hacer. No hay cura para el frío y el calor. Continuarán por siempre. Después de que hayamos muerto, el flujo y reflujo continuarán. Como las mareas del mar, como el día y la noche, esta es la naturaleza de las cosas.
Preguntas semilla para la reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la noción de que finalmente lograrlo todo es la muerte? ¿Puedes compartir una experiencia de una época en la que pudiste abrazar por completo la expulsión continua del nido? ¿Qué te ayuda a vivir plenamente, experimentando cada momento como completamente nuevo y fresco?
Pema Chodron es autora, maestra de meditación, y el extracto anterior es de su libro Being Present
Pema Chodron is an author, meditation teacher, and excerpt above is from her book When Things Fall Apart.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that finally getting it all together is death? Can you share an experience of a time you were able to fully embrace being continually thrown out of the nest? What helps you live fully, experiencing each moment as completely new and fresh?
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On Jul 28, 2020 Ambika wrote :
Am in deep reflection because i have and i am continuously being thrown out of my nest. But I was and continue to be reactive and not responding. I have cribbed, ranted and resisted and considered myself to be an unfortunate being. The chosen one to be put through the test of fire.
Pema Chodren's words come as fragrance. I could have been fully alive but i then thought i was gong through death. Here is yet another opportunity for me to be fully alive. I shall embrace being thrown out of the nest because I want to live life in all its glory. Thank you for this fresh teaching.
Pema Chodren's words come as fragrance. I could have been fully alive but i then thought i was gong through death. Here is yet another opportunity for me to be fully alive. I shall embrace being thrown out of the nest because I want to live life in all its glory. Thank you for this fresh teaching.
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On Jul 28, 2020 Kitty wrote :
Nice reflections, i'm just reading a book , called Miracles of development subtitle plant-human-project , the author J D van Mansvelt ( Dutch and this book is just released in Dutch) is analyzing the development plants, and gives examples that when a knot os formed, the plant is changed because the leaves are spouting out, or eventually a flower or blossom, next stage a fruit; He calls it metamorphose ( like a caterpillar is becoming a butterfly) The relation with humans is evaluation by changes like, sickness, accidents, divorce etc , than your mind nad body is shifting to a new phase , he explains that the death could have the same effect. My English is not brilliant and i will ask him if we could translate a summary of this book in other languages.
For my own experiences my life changes a lot after a severe car accident, the suicide of my first husband, the death of my sister ( at 46); and the moment that my husband and me stepped out of the " ratrace" and decided to l... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 28, 2020 Myrtle Russell wrote :
For me, getting it all together is embracing the ebbs and flow of life with courage; its believing that spirit never dies.
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On Jul 28, 2020 Sunil wrote :
"Impermanence is the only permanence' said Buddha. There is no constant stable but only continuous changeand that is actually the life in reality. As and when one achieves freedom from the cycle of birth and death then only there is wholesomeness and completeness.
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On Jul 28, 2020 Yvonne wrote :
Years ago, I read the words...it took me years to see what these words were really saying...it is cyclical .
Life ..death and Resurrection....is an ever going returning and returning...not like I'd been brought up to believe....a bit like the earth was flat....and that changed my perspective....I could now see the good in the bad...and I realised it was all energy...coming in and going out....even the sea shore spits out what is no longer life giving.....and I knew it was up to how I chewed it out or could not digest it....no blame ...and I began to feel free.
Life ..death and Resurrection....is an ever going returning and returning...not like I'd been brought up to believe....a bit like the earth was flat....and that changed my perspective....I could now see the good in the bad...and I realised it was all energy...coming in and going out....even the sea shore spits out what is no longer life giving.....and I knew it was up to how I chewed it out or could not digest it....no blame ...and I began to feel free.
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On Jul 25, 2020 David Doane wrote :
As I see, birth and death, beginning and ending are always. I don't think getting it all together is death -- I believe getting it all together, which I've never achieved, would be glorious life, not death. I think I never fully embrace being continually thrown out of the nest. I embrace it in the sense that I know and accept that everything is constantly changing, that I live in the unknown and control very little if anything. However, while everything is constantly changing, most of the changing is such that I feel consistency and stability as I live my routine in my nest. Occasionally a major change throws me out of the nest such that I very much feel it. I don't like or embrace major unwanted changes, especially as they're happening. Once upon a time I left a career path. I threw myself out of a particular nest into the unknown. Initially I felt terrified and second guessing of myself which quickly gave way to feeling free, open, and excited in my moving on. It was ... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 24, 2020 Jagdish P Dave wrote :
If we want to live life fully, we need to let go and free ourselves from the grip of the past and the grip of the future. We need to release the grip of holding on to the past as well as future and live fully in the present moment. In order to fill the cup of my life fully I need to empty my cup. We need to be thrown out of the old nest.Otherwise I live a life unfulfilled. It is by letting go I receive the gifts of living fully. These kindsof paradoxical sayings come from most of the wisdom traditions.Pema Chodronrepresents the Buddhist perspective of living Mindfully.
I have been learning how to embrace life fully by throwing out of the old nest. Every morning I wake up I practice mindfulness that helps me to live fully in the present moment. I try to maintainmindfulness in taking care of my everyday tasks. I live fully in the present moment. There are times when the old habitual or conditioned patterns of behaviortake over me. I fly back to the old nest. I wake up and realize that I ... [View Full Comment]