Staying Small To Stay Safe
Mantenerse pequeñ@ para mantenerse segur@--por Peggy Dulany
En algún lugar a lo largo de la línea de la evolución humana, los temores causaron que muchos de nosotros (especialmente aquellos que perdieron su vínculo con el entorno natural y vinieron a vivir en condiciones de vida abarrotadas y estresantes) nos redujimos a una forma más pequeña de comprender y vivir nuestro existencia. Necesitábamos sentirnos seguros. Y lo desconocido nos hizo temer. Así que redujimos lo desconocido a pedazos manejables que le quitaron gran parte del significado y la magia.
Es muy comprensible cuando lo piensas desde el punto de vista de la supervivencia: somos mortales, nuestras vidas son relativamente cortas y, justo cuando comenzamos a ser capaces de comprender algo más grande que nuestras vidas pequeñas y limitadas, morimos. Fabricamos todo tipo de creencias (religiones, ideologías, mitos) para racionalizar nuestra vida y nuestra muerte, para asegurarnos de que algo (cielo, infierno, reencarnación), algo que tenga sentido, continuará después de que nuestros cuerpos se desintegran y la luz en nuestros ojos sea extinguida.
Llegamos a vivir vidas más pequeñas por miedo a las guerras que podrían matarnos; a la posible violencia contra nosotr@s que, a su vez, nos hace manifestar eso contra otr@s; a la posibilidad de que la violencia emocional, física y espiritual que podamos haber encontrado en nuestra infancia y nuestra corta vida se repita en nosotr@s mism@s o en nuestr@s hij@s.
Así que hacemos lo que sea que tengamos que hacer para mantenernos a salvo: una solución ha sido 'escondernos' del niñ@ atrevid@, audaz y aventurer@ de nuestro ser que quería salir y explorar el mundo, y hacernos muy pequeñ@s e incluso invisibles para que nadie nos perciba como una amenaza y nadie nos haga daño. Nos escondemos como una forma de protegernos a nosotr@s mism@s y, al hacerlo, escondemos nuestra magnificencia, nuestra integridad, nuestra plena creatividad, así como aquellos aspectos que nos enseñaron que eran malos. Usamos una gran cantidad de energía tratando de mantener invisibles estas partes de nosotr@s mism@s, a veces hasta el punto de que incluso olvidamos su existencia.
Pero a la magnificencia y a otras cualidades menos atractivas no les gusta ser empequeñecidas o compartimentadas. Sufren, se irritan, buscan debilidades en las paredes de su contención y escapan (para horror de nuestros seres pequeños y seguros) en pequeñas, o en ocasiones grandes, erupciones que sorprenden o conducen a la desaprobación o asombro de los demás y hacen sonar nuestras alarmas. ruidosamente.
Preguntas semilla para la reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la noción de que a la magnificencia no le gusta ser empequeñecida o compartimentada? ¿Puedes compartir una experiencia de alguna vez en que tu magnificencia estalló más allá de sus muros de contención? ¿Qué te ayuda a trascender tus miedos y dejar que brille tu magnificencia?
Peggy Dulany es filántropa y fundadora de Synergos. Extraído de este artículo.
Peggy Dulany is a philanthropist and founder of Synergos. Excerpted from this article.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that magnificence doesn't like to be shrunk or compartmentalized? Can you share an experience of a time your magnificence erupted beyond its walls of containment? What helps you transcend your fears and let your magnificence shine?
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On Feb 25, 2022 PattiJoy wrote :
Magnificence calls me to be fully me! She reaches out and gently touches me and beckons me to grow into the marvelous now.
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On Feb 23, 2022 Corinne wrote :
Yes, let's shine! After feeling our emotion (without thinking at the same time) we all can just choose for magnificence! It will be easier and easier. Isn't this wonderful. Of course, I do. I like to do it. It feels joyful.
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On Feb 21, 2022 Adele wrote :
Just like a wave, the interface with the world goes up and down, fills in and empties.
Hiding or replenishing?
Hiding or replenishing?
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On Feb 20, 2022 Christina M wrote :
I'm more comfortable thinking of my innate dignity and worth—I suppose you could call it magnificence‚ a miracle really—life is a miraculous gift, though I can get mired in fear and uncertainty and forget that. What helps me transcend my fears and let my humanity shine is knowing I am a child of God, made in God's image, worth as much as anyone else.
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On Feb 20, 2022 Joan wrote :
When I stepped out of my safe comfort zone and went to work overseas- different culture-language-New skills and expectations of who I am and what I could be capable of.
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On Feb 20, 2022 Nancy May wrote :
I let my magnificence erupt wh I invited some women to my croning ceremony which I designed myself. I also let myself shine when I drummed and sang in women's gatherings
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On Feb 20, 2022 Barbara wrote :
Another good rabbit hole to ho down. A ahhh moment for me was falling in love with my being at the age of 60. I was doing a creative exercise using head, heart â¤ï¸, hand, a reflective collage of my life. I liked where I had been, where I was and where I hoped to go.
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On Feb 20, 2022 Ruth Pittard wrote :
Once a friend of mine who I had joined in living so that she could find her own magnificence said to me: "I was always my best with you---I just couldn't hold onto being it." I look at that comment often when I feel like my magnificent has shrunk or fallen into a box and move back into it's light in Crystal's honor and my own.
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On Feb 20, 2022 Jennifer wrote :
My magnificence erupted when I volunteered to sing a short solo part in my chorus' concert and I "found" my voice, finally! These days, my fear is transcended whenever I tune into my guides and my truest self.
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On Nov 14, 2019 RAJESH C OZA wrote :
While I certainly appreciate Peggy Dulany'ssentiment to not be small, to lead large lives, I must say that the "Hero's Journey" (as conveyed by Joseph Campbell) is not mine. I prefer smallness and do not experience my life as shrunk or compartmentalized. My journey is with close members of my family and friend circle. I enjoy a consulting practice with a few dozen clients over two decades rather than thousands of clients. I take delight in the title of E. F. Schumacher'sSmall is Beautiful. Smiling on the cover is a photograph of Gandhiji surrounded by a bicycle, a butterfly, and a bulb. All small things that have their own magnificence.
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On Nov 13, 2019 Surya wrote :
I could resonate with the point"(especially those who lost their link to the natural environment and came to live in crowded, stressful living conditions)" nature makes us feel confident and share with others making us feel one with whole, while crowded, stressfulliving conditions induce competition and shrinking from whole to self. Guess gaining knowledge of stressful conditions and handle situation in right way could lead to whole, unfortunatelywe find it difficult to handle condition with right approach because of the fear of being wrong or lack or knowledge, complications etc.
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On Nov 13, 2019 Krishna Kadali wrote :
Very good article to reflect on. I feel each of our inner self is unique and how each of us perceive things could be different and could be seeing a different angle to the reality that others might be missing. So rather than containing and hiding our magnificence with the fear of being wrong, it is good to express ourselves with an anticipation that we could be wrong and willing to correct ourselves. With this approach, we can see the reality better, accept the reality better and our collective goal should be how can we make the reality better for ourselves as well as for everyone around us.
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On Nov 12, 2019 Mark David Vinzens wrote :
“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”
―Gospel of Thomas
―Gospel of Thomas
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On Nov 12, 2019 Ku Kahakalau wrote :
Just had an intense conversation with my daughter who is 26 about thinking too large, and visioning too big - which has always been my way of living. She warned me of failing and I almost listened to her. So this article came at the perfect time. Thanks.
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On Nov 9, 2019 Abhi wrote :
Normal zones of life get punctured by outbursts of different emotions....unpredictable, intense and powerful....getting in touch with how, within me is literally an assembly line that sorts out emotions and puts away some of them in the warehouse, all the time.....
And then, once in a while, they erupt (or might)....This happens for me with anger...with magnificence it is still a more complex web of humility, my own smallness et el
And then, once in a while, they erupt (or might)....This happens for me with anger...with magnificence it is still a more complex web of humility, my own smallness et el
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On Nov 9, 2019 David Doane wrote :
I agree that magnificence (the real self of each of us) doesn't like to be shrunk or compartmentalized, which we do to a great extent in an effort to control, such as to try to control outcome or try to control how we and/or the other will feel. There have been many times I have allowed myself to express my magnificence and it or I has been well-received even when I expect disapproval. There have also been times that my magnificence has erupted beyond my walls of containment, such as when I erupted and rebelled against childhood beliefs, which resulted in some disapproval but overall the outcome has been positive, except on those occasions when my magnificence came out angrily, and then it was my anger rather than my magnificence that was the problem. What helps me transcend my fears is trusting me, trusting what I am seeing/perceiving/experiencing, and trusting that expressing me honestly and caringly is my responsibility and is good for me and others.
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On Nov 8, 2019 Jagdish P Dave wrote :
When we are not in the fight, flight or freeze survival zone, our mind and heart are open to see and experience amazing, vowing and magnificent presence of natural beauty and beauty of human mind and human heart. We are born with the sense of curiosity, wonderment, and magnificence. As we grow up, our natural tendency to relate and welcome the mysterious unknown gets shrunk and compartmentalized. Sadly our mind and heart shrink and become narrow by the fear of the unknown. The shine of magnificence gets obstructed by the clouds of fear.
My true self is not bound by attachment or aversion. It is vast and open. My ego self lives in a closed, fragmented and narrow world. Whenever I am in the being zone free from fear of losing my self, in the zone of unconditioned love and unconditional acceptance my magnificence eruptsbeyond its walls of containment.
I am grateful to my beloved lifepartner who provided an ambience of letting me to be me in my relationship with her. In this relationship... [View Full Comment]