Keeping Nothing Between
No Poner nada Entrepor Eugene Gendlin
En un restaurante una niña pequeña en el reservado contiguo se gira para mirarte. Es una mirada abierta, directa de ella- hacia ti. Ella no sabe que los desconocidos no deben conectar. Ella no pone este conocimiento entre ella y tú. No hay nada en medio. Tú le devuelves la Mirada. Sus padres la hacen sentarse y mirar hacia delante. Pero entonces, cuando todos ellos se van, se gira desde la puerta, para mirar otra vez. Después de todo, tú y ella os habéis encontrado por lo tanto no podría irse sin más.
En Primero de primaria los niños miran a su profe inquisitivamente, abiertamente; conectando No ponen nada entre la mirada y lo que miran. La/el profesor@ está ocupad@ con los ocho niveles de habilidades lectoras, y no les devuelve la mirada.
¿Son sólo los niños quienes no ponen” nada entre”? ¿O pueden los adultos hacer eso también? Podemos, pero para nosotros es un caso especial.
Si vinieses a verme ahora, no te miraría de esa forma, ni me daría cuenta si tú me miraras así. Me encontrarías de un humor concreto, en mis propias luchas. También estoy preocupado con la escritura de este papel. Si de repente entraras, una tercera cosa entraría en juego: La forma socialmente aceptada de saludar a las personas. Te respondería dentro de esa forma. O si somos viej@s amig@s, te respondería con nuestra forma personal de saludarnos. Si quisieras hablarme de forma natural, profunda, me llevaría un minuto olvidarme de las convencionalidades, dejar mi preocupación sobre mi capítulo, y salir de mi humor para no estar más en él. Entonces estaría aquí, sin poner nada entre nosotros. Pero sería más fácil dejar todo esto de lado, y contar con mi modo automático.
Si realmente quisiera estar contigo, no tendría nada delante de mí. Por supuesto que sé que puedo caer en la forma automática. Si es necesario, también puedo defenderme. Tengo mis recursos. Pero no quiero eso entre nosotros.
Si no pongo nada entre nosotros, puedes mirarme a los ojos y encontrarme. Puedes no mirar, por supuesto. Pero si lo haces no me esconderé. Entonces verás una persona muy insuficiente. Pero para el contacto no se requiere ningún tipo especial de ser humano. Este hecho da mucha paz.
Preguntas Semilla para la Reflexión: ¿Qué entiendes por “no poner nada entre”? ¿Puedes compartir una historia personal de alguna vez que no” pusieras nada entre”? ¿Qué práctica te ayuda a no “poner nada entre”?
Extracto de Tú y Yo – La Persona ahí dentro por Eugene Gendlin.
Extract from You and I - The Person in There by Eugene Gendlin.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What do you understand by "keeping nothing between?" Can you share a personal story of a time you kept nothing between? What practice helps you keep nothing between?
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On Oct 27, 2020 Hope wrote :
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On Jun 28, 2016 Bec wrote :
Simply beautiful.
These small reminders speak to some of the most core issues plaguing society today. Our learned reaction to ignore, look away, avoid eye contact, or even respond mechanically, how we 'should' respond rather than how we feel, are the barriers that are contributing to skyrocketing rates of isolation, depression and suicide worldwide. Humans are social creatures by nature, we crave connection; and it really is not hard to share even a moment with a stranger. You never know, that one smile or genuine greeting might be the only one that person receive that day; it might be just the hope, the glimpse of warmth and human compassion they needed to see the light and soldier on. Be kind, and remember we are all simply one part of the whole human race.
Genuine, small gestures won't make people nervous, rather open their minds and hearts to s softer, kinder world.
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On Jun 28, 2016 Judith wrote :
I'm still like that and it makes people really nervous:-)
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On Jun 28, 2016 Kristin Pedemonti wrote :
Keeping nothing between means being your real self, authentic, no masks. It also means creating a space to allow the other person or people to be real as well. I feel it is a bit easier than we think; we needlessly complicate. One of the phrases that helps me to be in this state is to think of us all as Tall Children, not in a demeaning way, but in that innocent, open way. A personal story of nothing between happened last night as a group of us broke the fast for Ramadan. We were from at least 2 dozen different cultures and yet there we were together seeing each other with openness and humanity and heart. It was a wonderful experience of building bridges of understanding. Hugs to you all! Let us keep nothing between!
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On Jun 28, 2016 Jennie Shirey wrote :
While on my daily walks in the park, I pass other walkers...some alone, some with someone else. Invariably, I smile and attempt to look them in the eye as I speak a brief greeting. For those who dare to meet my gaze and also speak in return, it seems as though for a brief moment nothing is between us and we are connected. Some pass by without speaking or even looking at me, however, and I feel that we missed an opportunity to be real to one another out of fear of stranger or fear of vulnerability. Surely, we are meant to be present to one another, even in passing.
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On Jun 28, 2016 Sidney DeKoven wrote :
In a spiritual group I'm in, there is one person that when we look at each other there is nothing between. It happens after one of us has shared a personal spiritual insight. We then look at each other openly with surrender and love. It is a very beautiful moment of 2 souls connecting and becoming one with nothing in between. The gazing into each other's eyes may last only a few seconds but a circuit has been closed and love has found expression on this earth.
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On Jun 25, 2016 david doane wrote :
"Keeping nothing between" is simple and basic and we make it so difficult. It means to keep the line of connection between me and another clear and open, free of obstructions such as thinking, expectations, prejudices, preconceptions, predictions, objectives, preoccupations. Such obstructions get in between two people and interfere with connecting. When nothing is between, we can meet, person to person. Actually, I strive to keep nothing between, and am usually successful for a few seconds at a time before some obstruction slips in and I find myself talking to my thinking or expectations or some form of obstruction instead of connecting with the other. Then I catch myself and have a few more seconds of nothing between before I again allow something between. Being present, paying attention, being aware and mindful help me keep nothing between.
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