Relationships Make You Conscious, Not Happy
Las Relaciones son para Hacerte Consciente en lugar de Feliz.--por Eckhart Tolle
El reconocimiento y la aceptación de los hechos traen consigo un cierto grado de libertad. Por ejemplo, cuando sabes que no hay armonía y te das cuenta de ese hecho, a través de ese conocimiento ha aparecido un nuevo factor y la falta de armonía no puede permanecer sin cambiar. Cuando sabes que no estás en paz, tu conocimiento crea un espacio de tranquilidad que rodea tu falta de paz en un abrazo amoroso y tierno que transmuta y la convierte en paz. En cuanto a la transformación interior, no hay nada que podamos hacer. No puedes transformarte a ti mismo, y ciertamente no puedes transformar a tu pareja ni a ninguna otra persona. Todo lo que puedes hacer es crear un espacio para que ocurra la transformación, para que entren la gracia y el amor.
Así pues, siempre que tengas una relación que no funcione, siempre que os “enloquezca” a ti y a tu pareja, alégrate. Lo que era inconsciente está saliendo a la luz. Es una oportunidad de salvación. Todo el tiempo has de ser consciente de ese momento, particularmente de tu estado interior. Si hay rabia, que sepas que hay rabia. Si hay celos, actitud defensiva, impulso de discutir, necesidad de tener razón, tu niño interior pidiendo amor y atención, o dolor emocional de cualquier tipo - lo que sea, conoce la realidad de ese momento y estate atento a ese conocimiento. La relación entonces se volverá tu sadhana, tu práctica espiritual. Si observas una conducta inconsciente en tu pareja, mantenla en el abrazo amoroso de tu conocimiento para no reaccionar.
La inconsciencia y el conocimiento no pueden coexistir durante mucho tiempo – incluso si el conocimiento está en la otra persona y no en la que está actuando llevada por la inconsciencia. La forma de energía que hay en la hostilidad y el ataque encuentra la presencia del amor absolutamente intolerable. Si reaccionas ante la inconsciencia de tu pareja te vuelves inconsciente también. Pero si en ese momento te acuerdas de conocer tu reacción nada se ha perdido.
La humanidad está bajo una gran presión de evolucionar porque es nuestra única oportunidad de sobrevivir como especie. Esto afecta a todos los aspectos de la vida y a las relaciones cercanas en particular. Las relaciones nunca antes han sido tan problemáticas ni han estado tan cargadas de conflicto como ahora. Como tal vez hayas notado, no están aquí para hacerte feliz o realizarte. Si continuas persiguiendo la meta de la salvación a través de una relación, te desilusionarás una y otra vez. Pero si aceptas que la relación está para hacerte consciente en lugar de hacerte feliz, entonces la relación te ofrecerá la salvación y sintonizarás con la conciencia superior que quiere nacer en este mundo.
Preguntas Semilla para la Reflexión: ¿Cómo te relacionas con la idea de que las relaciones están aquí para hacerte consciente? ¿Puedes compartir una historia personal donde el comportamiento inconsciente fuese abrazado por el abrazo amoroso del conocimiento, sin reacción? ¿Qué práctica te ayuda a recordar tus reacciones y crecer en conciencia?
Sacado de El Poder del Ahora de Eckhart Tolle.
Excerpted from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that relationships are here to make us conscious? Can you share a personal story where unconscious behavior was held in the loving embrace of knowing, without reacting? What practice helps you to remember your reactions and grow in awareness?
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On May 26, 2016 Akshay Sadana wrote :
Relationship is the only thing that keeps you live.
Life is full of problems, full of miseries, failures and dissatisfaction. There are times when you find your self so lonely that nothing can take you out other than a sweet relation. The only this that matters in life for which you do every thing is your relationship. You create an empire of leave the world for eternity it is only for the sake of relationship. There is nothing more charming, soothing beautiful, fragrant than a relationship.
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On Apr 20, 2016 Norma Ruiz wrote :
This has so resonated with me. I figured out early in my marriage that it is not my job to make my husband happy -- that's his job. After a few years, I realized that it was also not his job to make me happy, that's MY job. I have grown so much in our relationship, not because he makes me happy, but because he can stoke every unconscious and unresolved issue in every dark corner of my being. Today, I am grateful and in love with my husband for helping with my growth which has released me to deeper connect with spirit, love of self and others and a rich life. The journey was not easy as I had to grieve the relationship I thought I wanted with him and trust that something better was ahead.
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On Apr 20, 2016 Jyoti wrote :
For 14 years I held back my reactions to all manner of anger fueled abuse from a partner (then an ex-partner) who marched to the drum of his inner demons. I raised our son, mostly alone, with a commitment to my value that a child have respect and love for his father. This practice changed me and my life in more ways than I can count. Now my only prayers are that the grown son and father find their own healthy equation in their relationship, and may the father's inner drum find a peaceful enough rhythm. I am blessed to have sufficient clarity on living for what I value.
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On Apr 19, 2016 Indira Iyer wrote :
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On Apr 19, 2016 Rashmi wrote :
When you live in a relationship which is non-receptive, long enough...you eventually grow non reactive and be conscious, for this natural process of knowing although you do pay a heavy price of living in a dead relationship.
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On Apr 18, 2016 purelove wrote :
When love is less, challenges are more. It takes a momentary thought to create an issue but a lifetime to overcome. We are using more head (logic), which creates difficulty to love or surrender.
Acceptance becomes automatic and differences non-existent, in moments when there is pure love.
'Bhakti' seems to be the most beautiful practice of divine love, one can experience & offer.
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On Apr 18, 2016 david doane wrote :
I appreciate the gentle wisdom of this article. I believe that we do wake up, become more conscious, through relationship, which results in happiness from within. We are related, and in relationship we have the ongoing opportunity to transform. I used to be more angry, negative, defensive, critical than I am now, and my being in relationship with my wife who is positive, accepting, patient, encouraging has very much helped me become more aware of how I was and become more soft, less angry, more positive, and more kind. I was held in loving embrace, and my becoming more conscious and growing occurred and is occurring over many years -- I'm a slow learner. Knowing what happens for me, remembering that I can learn and change, helps me to grow in awareness and helps me to be more compassionate toward myself, and knowing that others are (like) me I am also more compassionate with others.
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On Apr 17, 2016 Abhishek Thakore wrote :
Personal relationships are the real "labs" of growth - where the talk meets the walk. And if we are able to remove the criteria of "happiness" that is so deeply embedded in an 'ideal' relationships, there is a sense of relief.
Indeed, no better place to discover ourselves than in relationship with one another, as well as in our relationship with ourselves :)
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