Generosity Helps Us Accept Change
Generozitatea ne ajută să acceptăm schimbarea— de Sharon Salzberg
Scopul practicării generozității este dublu, altfel este o experiență incompletă.
Primul scop este să ne eliberăm mințile de forțele condiționate care ne leagă și ne limitează. Lăcomia, agățarea și atașamentul atrag limitarea și lipsa de stimă de sine. Dacă căutăm întotdeauna o persoană sau un lucru pentru a ne completa, ne lipsește gradul în care suntem compleți în fiecare moment. E un pic cam ca sprijinul pe un miraj doar pentru a realiza că nu ne poate susține; nu este nimic acolo.
Când suntem în permanență mișcați căutând următoarea experiență și următoarea plăcere, este ca și cum ați merge de la un miraj la altul. Nu avem nici o siguranță. Nimic nu ne ține legați de noi. Noi practicăm generozitatea pentru a elibera mintea de acea iluzie, pentru a slăbi forțele de poftă și de agățare pentru a putea găsi fericirea esențială.
De asemenea, practicăm generozitatea pentru a elibera pe alții, pentru a extinde bunăstarea și fericirea asupra tuturor ființelor, într-un fel, la fel de mult ca fiecare dintre noi, să diminueze suferințele din această lume. Atunci când practica noastră de generozitate este autentică, când este completă, realizăm spațiul și pacea interioară și învățăm, de asemenea, să dăm grija noastră fără margini tuturor ființelor vii.
Mișcarea inimii în practicarea generozității reflectă mișcarea inimii care permite pătrunderea către interior. Deci, formarea externă de a da influență profundă tonului intern al senzației de practică a meditației și invers. Dacă cultivăm o inimă generoasă, atunci din ce în ce mai mult putem permite necondiționat ca lucrurile să fie așa cum sunt. Putem accepta adevărul momentului prezent, mai degrabă decât să impunem continuu condiții asupra a ceea ce se întâmplă: trebuie să fie așa sau pe dincolo, altfel nu poți fi fericit. Şederea ta trebuie să fie perfectă sau nu vei fi fericit. Trebuie să nu aveți neliniște sau să nu vă simțiți bine despre voi înșivă. Realitatea se mișcă în afara controlului nostru și totuși noi ne impunem toate aceste condiții. Generozitatea permite ca întregul proiect să înceapă să diminueze.
Puterea generozității noastre este un factor primar în capacitatea noastră de a accepta schimbarea.
Semnificația întrebărilor pentru reflecție: Cum te referi la noțiunea că puterea generozității noastre este un factor primar în capacitatea noastră de a accepta schimbarea? Puteți să împărtășiți o poveste personală despre un moment în care ați putea vedea mișcarea inimii voastre în practicarea generozității, reflectând mișcarea inimii voastre, permițând să pătrundă către interior? Ce vă ajută să cultivați o inimă generoasă?
Sharon Salzberg este un guru al meditației de multă vreme; extras din acest articol.
Sharon Salzberg is a long-time meditation teacher; excerpt above from this article.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that the strength of our generosity is a primary factor in our ability to accept change? Can you share a personal story of a time when you could see the movement of your heart in practicing generosity mirroring the movement of your heart letting go inside? What helps you cultivate a generous heart?
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On Feb 1, 2019 Jodyne wrote :
Q: How do you relate to the notion that
the strength of our generosity is
a primary factor in our ability
to accept change?
A: I see change happening after
awareness of any particular issue or need is noted,
and the heart is engaged in the choice.
When the heart is free of any domestication,
free of anyone else's expectation,
and when we feel free to do as we want.
My generosity happens when
the mind is set free and
the heart can engage without restriction.
Q: Can you share a personal story of a time
when you could see
the movement of your heart
in practicing generosity
mirroring the movement of your heart
letting go inside?
A: No; I'm not sure I understand the question.
Q: What helps you cultivate a generous heart?
To practice awareness.
the strength of our generosity is
a primary factor in our ability
to accept change?
A: I see change happening after
awareness of any particular issue or need is noted,
and the heart is engaged in the choice.
When the heart is free of any domestication,
free of anyone else's expectation,
and when we feel free to do as we want.
My generosity happens when
the mind is set free and
the heart can engage without restriction.
Q: Can you share a personal story of a time
when you could see
the movement of your heart
in practicing generosity
mirroring the movement of your heart
letting go inside?
A: No; I'm not sure I understand the question.
Q: What helps you cultivate a generous heart?
To practice awareness.
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On Jan 29, 2019 Barbara wrote :
I realized one day I was very upset with my older sister because I was wanting her to act a certain way.....to replace my mother who had passed away. I wanted her to love me as my mother had done. But she wasn't my mother and wasn't acting according to what I thought I needed. One day I realized I needed to give her something rather than get something from her . I needed to see and appreciate her for who she really is so I sent her a card in which I wrote down many of her gifts to the world....which didn't exactly include me directly but for which she should be acknowledged and valued. I cried when I wrote it...perhaps letting go of the illusion and attachments that I had and I sent the letter. She told me she cried too when she received it. It took a generosity of heart on my part to let go of the delusion and my own suffering around it. It brought peace to me when it was meant as a gift to her. It was a huge shift for me and it opened the "heart waves" between u... [View Full Comment]
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On Jan 29, 2019 Beatriz wrote :
Generosity is also about letting others be and do what they need to, even if it does not benefit us...
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On Jan 28, 2019 vidya rao wrote :
Kindness, simplicity plays an important role in our life. Treat every human beings like your brothers and sisters.
The more we expect from others, more we become unhappy in life. Less expectation, accepting the truth, detachment in life helps you to reach your goal.
But one should never back off from their responsibilities and duties. Those who are dependent on us should not suffer because of our negligence.
My Guru says, Family is the best play ground teaches you how to tolerate others. Being in day today life, it will teach you every stage of life, dealing with different type of behaviours.
The more we expect from others, more we become unhappy in life. Less expectation, accepting the truth, detachment in life helps you to reach your goal.
But one should never back off from their responsibilities and duties. Those who are dependent on us should not suffer because of our negligence.
My Guru says, Family is the best play ground teaches you how to tolerate others. Being in day today life, it will teach you every stage of life, dealing with different type of behaviours.
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On Jan 27, 2019 Jagdish P Dave wrote :
True or genuine generosity is unconditional with no expectation in return. It is pure and not contiminated by my agenda such as what am I goung to get by my generous act. In this sense it is free from any bondage. When I do such generous act my heart gets filled with joy, happines..
When I do a generous act to get something in return or impose any conditon or I manupalate the other, it is not genuine and free.
Yesterday, my friends came to my house discuss Breakfast with Buddha in our Book Club. Two of my friends waited to chat with me after the meeting. Both of them looked at my library and their faces indicate their desire to have a couple of books from a book sture. I felt their their desire and I joyfully offered the books they liked in my library. Our faces shone with light of joy. It is by giving we receive. Such offering from our heart cultivates our attitude and ability to go with the flow and accept what happens.
Namaste!
Jagdish Dave... [View Full Comment]
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On Jan 26, 2019 David Doane wrote :
Only true generosity frees the mind Generosity that is goal-directed, such as generosity done in order to complete me or done to make me feel good about myself or done to please the other or get what I want, is not true generosity and is not freeing. Generosigy that is conditional, to use the author's word, such as generosity done to impose or try to control, is not true and is not freeing. Generosity that is freeing is pure and genuine, free of agendas, not outcome bound, not controlling or manipulative. Generosity that is freeing reflects and fosters ability to accept what happens. When my generosity is true, my heart is light, full, and free. True generosity is its own reward and helps me cultivate a generous heart.