Communication As Mutual Entrainment

 Once my Divine friend Dadashreeji shared in one of His sessions that we must express ourselves fully to allow our relationships to grow so that we can understand the other person. However, one must make sure that a heart talks to another heart.
 I wanted to put this teaching into practice and so thought of expressing myself completely to my loved ones first. I realized that it was not easy. I found myself operating from the fear of hurting the other person or being judged. I also experienced that more often than not...we do not listen and let the person complete what he/she has to say and jump to a conclusion. What really happens is a mind is trying to express to another mind. Sometimes, when I did try to express from my heart, I realized that the heart was expressing to the mind. The only time my heart expressed to heart was when I was communicating with my Divine Friend Dadashreeji. In that moment, I operated from love even though sometimes I was expressing my intense anger.
 I wondered why it is so easy to express myself clearly and truthfully to my Inner Divine, but so challenging when it comes to others. I realized that it is, because the communication between me and my Divine Friend Dadashreeji happens from heart to heart and the origin of our communication is love. There is no pretense, no fear of judgment or the relationship being spoilt with my Inner Divine. He understands me fully. The communication happens in the present moment, is spontaneous and there is no baggage to be carried later.
 I prayed to my Inner Divine for help and received a beautiful insight. I realized that if I have to express myself completely to others, want others to understand me, first I need to be true to myself. I need to listen from my heart when someone else is expressing to me. I need to develop patient listening so that I am able to patiently listen and let the other person complete what he/she has to say. I was reminded of how Dadashreeji patiently waits for me to finish what I have to say before He tells me something. I also need to be open to accepting other person’s truth or perspective. I need to understand others before I expect to be understood. In all, I need to operate from my heart first before I expect others to do the same.
 Above all, I cannot change myself without the grace of Dadashreeji. Connecting deeply and bonding with Him has given me positivity that expressing fully and truthfully is possible. It starts with me taking the first step.
Thank you Dadashreeji for holding my hand while I took that first step.
Once my Divine friend Dadashreeji shared in one of His sessions that we must express ourselves fully to allow our relationships to grow so that we can understand the other person. However, one must make sure that a heart talks to another heart.
 I wanted to put this teaching into practice and so thought of expressing myself completely to my loved ones first. I realized that it was not easy. I found myself operating from the fear of hurting the other person or being judged. I also experienced that more often than not...we do not listen and let the person complete what he/she has to say and jump to a conclusion. What really happens is a mind is trying to express to another mind. Sometimes, when I did try to express from my heart, I realized that the heart was expressing to the mind. The only time my heart expressed to heart was when I was communicating with my Divine Friend Dadashreeji. In that moment, I operated from love even though sometimes I was expressing my intense anger.
 I wondered why it is so easy to express myself clearly and truthfully to my Inner Divine, but so challenging when it comes to others. I realized that it is, because the communication between me and my Divine Friend Dadashreeji happens from heart to heart and the origin of our communication is love. There is no pretense, no fear of judgment or the relationship being spoilt with my Inner Divine. He understands me fully. The communication happens in the present moment, is spontaneous and there is no baggage to be carried later.
 I prayed to my Inner Divine for help and received a beautiful insight. I realized that if I have to express myself completely to others, want others to understand me, first I need to be true to myself. I need to listen from my heart when someone else is expressing to me. I need to develop patient listening so that I am able to patiently listen and let the other person complete what he/she has to say. I was reminded of how Dadashreeji patiently waits for me to finish what I have to say before He tells me something. I also need to be open to accepting other person’s truth or perspective. I need to understand others before I expect to be understood. In all, I need to operate from my heart first before I expect others to do the same.
 Above all, I cannot change myself without the grace of Dadashreeji. Connecting deeply and bonding with Him has given me positivity that expressing fully and truthfully is possible. It starts with me taking the first step.
Thank you Dadashreeji for holding my hand while I took that first step.
Shraddha

What I say may be for the other a seed that blossoms into a breathtaking flower or it may reduce me in the other's mind to a withering weed.  I hope for the former, and know that I don't control how the other responds.  There is always unpredictability in communication.  What I do control and what is my resonsibility is to compassionately express my truth.  The control and choice we have is in what and how we communicate.  Hopefully we communicate in a way that is entrainment, which the author says physicists call mutual phase locking.  It's mutual heart to heart and even soul to soul interconnection, intervibration, synchrony.  I felt such entrainment recently as I was with a group of long time close friends.  It's entrainment being enlivening and fulfilling that helps me stay committed to it.  We are most healthy and happy when there is entrainment.  Like it or not, we are intersubjective, we do communicate, and with effort we can entrain. 

 Communication as mutual entrainment opens the door for blossoming of mutual understanding, enrichment, creativity, and bonding. In intersubjective communication words matter. What we say and how we say matter. We affect each other positively or negatively. It depends on how we synchronize the pulses of each other. As the the author Ursula Krober Le Guin says," by getting the beats into a master rhythm, by entrainment."

For me, intrasubjective and intersubjective communications are intertwined.When I am in a quiet zone, I expereince such rhythmic communication within me. I am in entrainment with the voice arising in me. It is me listening to me. Such intrasubjective communication clears the clouds of opposing inner voices I  may not be awre of. Such intrasubjective communication helps me in intersubjective communications.

When I am in quiet natural surroundings, I experience deep connection between me and the sight and sound of nature. This also happes when I am in entunement with music and musiscians. What helps me is my deep and total attentivenes, my total presence, my alive quietness. This also happens in my intersubjective communicatios.It is like the author says an ancient gift. It's upto us to use it wisely.

May we cultivate the art of communication as mutual entrainment!
Namaste.
Jagdsih P Dave