Keeping Nothing Between
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ಒಂದೠರೆಸà³à²Ÿà³†à³‚ೕರೆಂಟೠನಲà³à²²à²¿ ಮà³à²‚ದೆ ಸà³à²µà²²à³à²ª ಹà³à²¡à³à²—ಿ ನಿಮà³à²®à²¨à³ ನೋಡಲೠತಿರà³à²—à³à²¤à³à²¤à²¾à²³à³†. ಇದೠಮà³à²•à³à²¤ ನೋಟ, ಅವಳಿಂದ ನಿಮಗೆ ನೇರವಾಗಿದೆ, ಅವಳಿಗೆ ಅಪರಿಚಿತರ ನಡà³à²µà³† ಸಂಪರà³à²• ಇರಬಾರದೠಎಂದೠಗೊತà³à²¤à²¿à²²à³à²². ಈ ಅರಿವಿನà³à²¨à³ ನಿಮà³à²®à²¿à²¬à³à²¬à²° ನಡà³à²µà³† ಇರಿಸà³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²². ನೀವೠಹಿಂತಿರಿಗಿ ನೋಡಲà³. ಆಕೆಯ ಪೋಷಕರೠಆಕೆಯನà³à²¨à³ ಮà³à²– ಮà³à²‚ದೆ ಮಾಡಿ ಕೆಳಗೆ ಮಾಡಿ ಕೂರಿಸಿದà³à²¦à²¾à²°à³†. ಆದರೆ, ಎಲà³à²²à²¾ ಹೊರಡà³à²µà²¾à²—, ಅವಳೠಸà³à²®à²¾à²°à³ ಬಾಗಿಲಿನ ಹತà³à²¤à²¿à²° ಬಂದà³, ಮತà³à²¤à³† ತಿರà³à²—ಿ ನೋಡà³à²¤à³à²¤à²¾à²³à³†. ಕೊನೆಗೂ, ನಿಮà³à²® ಮತà³à²¤à³ ಅವಳ à²à³†à³•à²Ÿà²¿ ಆದà³à²¦à²°à²¿à²‚ದ ಅವಳಿಗೆ ನಿಮà³à²®à²¨à³à²¨à³ ಬಿಟà³à²Ÿà³ ಹೋಗಲಾಗà³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²².
ಮೊದಲ ದರà³à²œà³†à²¯ ಮಕà³à²•à²³à³, ಅವರ ಶಿಕà³à²·à²•à²°à²¨à³à²¨à³ ಕೂಲಂಕಶವಾಗಿ, ಬಹಿರಂಗವಾಗಿ, ಹತà³à²¤à²¿à²° ಹೋಗà³à²µ ಹಾಗೆ ನೋಡà³à²¤à³à²¤à²¾à²°à³†. ಅವರ ನಡà³à²µà³† ಯಾವà³à²¦à³‡ ಅಂತರವಿರà³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²². ಆದರೆ ಶಿಕà³à²·à²•à²°à²¿à²—ೆ ಎಂಟೠಮಟà³à²Ÿà²¦ ಓದಿನ ಸಾಮರà³à²¥à³à²¯à²¦à²²à³à²²à²¿ ಕಾಳಜಿ, ಮತà³à²¤à³ ಹಿಂತಿರà³à²—ಿ ನೋಡà³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²²
ಮಕà³à²•à²³ ನಡà³à²µà³† ಮಾತà³à²° à²à²¨à³‚ ಇರಬಾರದೇ? ಅಥವಾ ವಯಸà³à²•à²°à³ ಸಹ ಅದನà³à²¨à³ ಮಾಡಬಹà³à²¦à³‡? ಅದೠನಮಗೂ ಸಹ ಸಾಧà³à²¯, ಆದರೆ ನಮಗೆ ಅದೠವಿಶೇಷವಾದ ಸಂದರà³à².
ನೀವೠಈಗ ನನà³à²¨à²¨à³à²¨à³ ನೋಡಲೠಬಂದರೆ , ನಾನೠನಿಮà³à²®à²¨à³à²¨à³ ಹಾಗೆ ನೀವೠನೋಡà³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²², ಅಥವಾ ನೀವೠನೋಡಿದà³à²¦à²¨à³à²¨à³ ನಾನೠಗà³à²°à³à²¤à²¿à²¸à³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²². ನನà³à²¨ ವà³à²¯à²¯à³à²•à³à²¤à²¿à²¤ ಹೋರಾಟಗಳ ಒಂದೠನಿರà³à²¦à²¿à²·à³à²Ÿ ಮನಸà³à²¥à²¿à²¤à²¿à²¯à²²à³à²²à²¿ ನನà³à²¨à²¨à³à²¨à³ ನೋಡಬಹದà³. ನಾನೠಈ ಪತà³à²° ಬರೆಯà³à²µ ಕೆಲಸದಲà³à²²à²¿ ಮà³à²³à³à²—ಿದà³à²¦à³†. ನೀವೠಇದà³à²¦à²•à³à²•à²¿à²¦à³à²¦à²‚ತೆ ಒಳಗೆ ಬಂದಾಗ ಮೂರನೇ ಆಯಾಮದಿಂದ ಪà³à²°à²¤à²¿à²•à³à²°à²¿à²¯à²¿à²¸ ಬಹà³à²¦à³: ಸಾಮಾಜಿಕವಾಗಿ ಯಾರಿಗಾದರೊ ಶà³à²à²¾à²¶à²¯ ಹೇಳà³à²µ ರೀತಿಯಲà³à²²à²¿ ಪà³à²°à²¤à²¿à²•à³à²°à²¿à²¯à²¿à²¸ ಬಹà³à²¦à³. ಅಥವಾ ನೀವೠಹಳೆಯ ಸà³à²¨à³†à³•à²¹à²¿à²¤à²°à²¾à²—ಿದà³à²¦à²°à³† ಪರಿಚಿತ à²à²¾à²µà²¦à²¿à²‚ದ ಪà³à²°à²¤à²¿à²•à³à²°à²¯à²¿à²¸à²¬à²¹à³à²¦à³. ನೀವೠಕೆಲವೠತಾಜಾ, ಆಳವಾದ ರೀತಿಯಲà³à²²à²¿ ಸಂಬಂಧ ಬಯಸಿದರೆ, ನನà³à²¨ ಸಾಮಾನà³à²¯ à²à²¾à²µà²¦à²¿à²‚ದ ದೂರ ಆಗಲೠನನಗೆ ಒಂದೠನಿಮಿಷ ತೆಗೆದà³à²•à³†à³‚ಳà³à²³à²¬à²¹à³à²¦à³, ನನà³à²¨ ವà³à²¯à²¯à³à²•à³à²¤à²¿à²¤ ಅಧà³à²¯à²¾à²¯à²—ಳನà³à²¨à³ ದೂರ ಹಾಕಲà³, ಮತà³à²¤à³ ನನà³à²¨ ಮನಸà³à²¸à³à²¸à³à²¹à²¾à²—ೂ ಚಿತà³à²¤à²µà²¨à³à²¨à³ ಹೊರಳಿಸಿ ಅದರೊಳಗೆ ನಾನೠಇರದಂತಾಗಲà³. ಆಗ ನಡà³à²µà³† à²à²¨à³ ನಡà³à²µà³† à²à²¨à³‚ ಇಲà³à²²à²¦à³† ನಾನಿಲà³à²²à²¿à²°à²¬à²¹à³à²¦à³. ಆದೆಲà³à²²à²¦à²° ಹಿಂದೆ ಉಳಿಯಲà³, ಮತà³à²¤à³ ನನà³à²¨ ನೈಜ ರೀತಿಯಲà³à²²à²¿ ಪà³à²°à²¤à²¿à²•à³à²°à²¿à²¯à³†à²¯à²¨à³à²¨à³ ಅವಲಂಬಿಸà³à²µà³à²¦à³ ತà³à²‚ಬಾ ಸà³à²²à²à²µà²¾à²— ಬಹà³à²¦à³
ನಾನೠನಿಮà³à²®à³†à³‚ಂದಿಗೆ ಇರಲೠನಿಜವಾಗಿ ಬಯಸಿದರೆ, ನಾನೠನನà³à²¨ ಮà³à²‚ದೆ à²à²¨à³‚ ಇರಿಸಿಕೊಳà³à²³à³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²². ಸಹಜವಾಗಿ ಹಿಂದೆ ಬೀಳà³à²µà³à²¦à³ ನನಗೆ ಗೊತà³à²¤à³. ಅಗತà³à²¯à²µà²¿à²¦à³à²¦à²²à³à²²à²¿, ನನà³à²¨à²¨à³à²¨à³ ನಾನೠರಕà³à²·à²¿à²¸à²¿à²•à³†à³‚ಳà³à²³à²²à³ ಸಾಧà³à²¯. ನಾನೠಅನೇಕ ದಾರಿಗಳಿವೆ. ಆದರೆ ನಮà³à²®à²¿à²¬à³à²¬à²° ನಡà³à²µà³† ಅದೠಯಾವà³à²¦à²¨à³à²¨à³ ನಾನೠಬಯಸà³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²².
ನನà³à²¨ ಮನಸà³à²¸à²¿à²¨à²²à³à²²à²¿ à²à²¨à³‚ ಇಟà³à²Ÿà³à²•à³Šà²³à³à²³à²¦à³† ಇದà³à²¦à²°à³† , ನೀವೠನನà³à²¨ ಕಣà³à²£à³à²—ಳನà³à²¨à³ ನೇರವಾಗಿ ನೋಡಿ ಮತà³à²¤à³ ನನà³à²¨à²¨à³à²¨à³ ಹà³à²¡à³à²• ಬಹà³à²¦à³. ನೀವೠನೋಡದಿರà³à²µ ಸಾಧà³à²¯à²¤à³† ಇದೆ, ಆದರೆ ನೀವೠನೋಡಿದರೆ, ನಾನೠಅಡಗà³à²µà³à²¦à²¿à²²à³à²². ಆಗ ನಿಮಗೆ ನನà³à²¨à²²à³à²²à²¿ ಬಹಳಷà³à²Ÿà³ ಕೊರತೆಗಳೠಕಾಣಬಹà³à²¦à³ ಆದರೆ ಸಂಪರà³à²• ಹೊಂದಲà³, ಮಾನವನಿಗೆ ಯಾವà³à²¦à³†à³• ವಿಶೇಷ ಶಕà³à²¤à²¿à²¯ ಅಗತà³à²¯à²µà²¿à²²à³à²² . ಈ ವಾಸà³à²¤à²µà²¦à²¿à²‚ದ ಒಂದೠರೀತಿಯ ಶಾಂತಿ ಅನà³à²à²µ
ಜ ಪà³à²°à²¶à³à²¨à³†à²—ಳà³: "ಮನಸà³à²¸à²¿à²¨à²²à³à²²à²¿ à²à²¨à³‚ ಇಟà³à²Ÿà³à²•à³Šà²³à³à²³à²¦à³†" ಎಂದರೆ ನೀಮಗೆ à²à²¨à³ ಅರà³à²¥ ಆಯಿತà³? ನಿಮà³à²® ಮನಸà³à²¸à²¿à²¨à²²à³à²²à²¿ à²à²¨à³‚ ಇಟà³à²Ÿà³à²•à³Šà²³à³à²³à²¦ ಸಮಯದ ಒಂದೠವೈಯಕà³à²¤à²¿à²• ಕಥೆ ಹಂಚಿಕೊಳà³à²³à²¬à²¹à³à²¦à³‡ ? ಮನಸà³à²¸à²¿à²¨à²²à³à²²à²¿ à²à²¨à³‚ ಇಟà³à²Ÿà³à²•à³Šà²³à³à²³à²¦à³† ಇರಲೠಯಾವ ಅà²à³à²¯à²¾à²¸à²¦à²¿à²‚ದ ನಿಮಗೆ ಸಹಾಯವಾಗಿದೆ?
Extract from You and I - The Person in There by Eugene Gendlin.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What do you understand by "keeping nothing between?" Can you share a personal story of a time you kept nothing between? What practice helps you keep nothing between?
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On Oct 27, 2020 Hope wrote :
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On Jun 28, 2016 Bec wrote :
Simply beautiful.
These small reminders speak to some of the most core issues plaguing society today. Our learned reaction to ignore, look away, avoid eye contact, or even respond mechanically, how we 'should' respond rather than how we feel, are the barriers that are contributing to skyrocketing rates of isolation, depression and suicide worldwide. Humans are social creatures by nature, we crave connection; and it really is not hard to share even a moment with a stranger. You never know, that one smile or genuine greeting might be the only one that person receive that day; it might be just the hope, the glimpse of warmth and human compassion they needed to see the light and soldier on. Be kind, and remember we are all simply one part of the whole human race.
Genuine, small gestures won't make people nervous, rather open their minds and hearts to s softer, kinder world.
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On Jun 28, 2016 Judith wrote :
I'm still like that and it makes people really nervous:-)
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On Jun 28, 2016 Kristin Pedemonti wrote :
Keeping nothing between means being your real self, authentic, no masks. It also means creating a space to allow the other person or people to be real as well. I feel it is a bit easier than we think; we needlessly complicate. One of the phrases that helps me to be in this state is to think of us all as Tall Children, not in a demeaning way, but in that innocent, open way. A personal story of nothing between happened last night as a group of us broke the fast for Ramadan. We were from at least 2 dozen different cultures and yet there we were together seeing each other with openness and humanity and heart. It was a wonderful experience of building bridges of understanding. Hugs to you all! Let us keep nothing between!
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On Jun 28, 2016 Jennie Shirey wrote :
While on my daily walks in the park, I pass other walkers...some alone, some with someone else. Invariably, I smile and attempt to look them in the eye as I speak a brief greeting. For those who dare to meet my gaze and also speak in return, it seems as though for a brief moment nothing is between us and we are connected. Some pass by without speaking or even looking at me, however, and I feel that we missed an opportunity to be real to one another out of fear of stranger or fear of vulnerability. Surely, we are meant to be present to one another, even in passing.
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On Jun 28, 2016 Sidney DeKoven wrote :
In a spiritual group I'm in, there is one person that when we look at each other there is nothing between. It happens after one of us has shared a personal spiritual insight. We then look at each other openly with surrender and love. It is a very beautiful moment of 2 souls connecting and becoming one with nothing in between. The gazing into each other's eyes may last only a few seconds but a circuit has been closed and love has found expression on this earth.
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On Jun 25, 2016 david doane wrote :
"Keeping nothing between" is simple and basic and we make it so difficult. It means to keep the line of connection between me and another clear and open, free of obstructions such as thinking, expectations, prejudices, preconceptions, predictions, objectives, preoccupations. Such obstructions get in between two people and interfere with connecting. When nothing is between, we can meet, person to person. Actually, I strive to keep nothing between, and am usually successful for a few seconds at a time before some obstruction slips in and I find myself talking to my thinking or expectations or some form of obstruction instead of connecting with the other. Then I catch myself and have a few more seconds of nothing between before I again allow something between. Being present, paying attention, being aware and mindful help me keep nothing between.
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