Response Is Different From An Answer
प्रतिक्रिया उत्तर से अलग है--एरियल बर्गर के द्वारा
वर्तमान क्षण नैतिक बल की मांग करता है। हमें रात में ठीक से नहीं सोना चाहिए जब हम जानते हैं कि दूसरे पीड़ित हैं। हालांकि, बल अपने आप में खतरा है। यह न भूलें कि बुराई के कुछ सबसे बुरे अपराधियों ने अक्सर अच्छे, या भगवान, या राष्ट्रीय हित, या भविष्य के स्वप्नलोक के नाम पर कार्य करने का दावा किया है। नैतिक उच्च आधार का दावा करके, और अपने विरोधियों के गुमराह होने का परचा लगाकर, हम अच्छे के नाम पर बड़ा नुकसान करने का जोखिम उठाते हैं।
मेरा सुझाव है कि हम नैतिक बल को नम्रता और कोमलता के साथ संतुलित करें। सबसे पहले, हमें निरंतर आत्म-परीक्षा की नम्रता की आवश्यकता है। इसके लिए हमें कुछ बहुत ही प्रतिसांस्कृतिक करने की आवश्यकता है: हमारे पास उत्तर न होने पर भी प्रश्नों का जश्न मनाएं। हमारी संस्कृति निश्चितता, आत्मविश्वास और निश्चित उत्तरों को पुरस्कृत करती है। सवालों का जश्न मनाकर, हम अपने मूल्यों के नाम पर संभावित नुकसान की पहचान करने की संभावना को बढ़ाते हैं। [...]
लेकिन उस छात्र का क्या जो पूछता है: केवल प्रश्न ही काफी नहीं हैं! आखिरकार, हमें यह जानने की जरूरत है कि क्या करना है, कैसे व्यवहार करना है और व्यावहारिक चुनौतियों का सबसे अच्छा सामना या समाधान कैसे करना है।
यह एक ऐसे दृष्टिकोण के लिए एक महत्वपूर्ण चुनौती है जो पूछताछ और विनम्रता पर जोर देता है। ये क्षण अक्सर साहसिक और रचनात्मक प्रतिक्रियाओं की मांग करते हैं। अतीत की कहानियों को दोहराना पर्याप्त नहीं है; हमें भी नया लिखना चाहिए। हमें स्वयं को अपनी स्थिति में ले जाना चाहिए, जो कि अपरिचित और अज्ञात है।
लेकिन उत्तर और एक प्रतिक्रिया के बीच एक महत्वपूर्ण अंतर है। एक उत्तर निश्चित है और बातचीत को समाप्त कर देता है। साथ ही यदि मेरा उत्तर आपके विरोध में है तो संघर्ष की संभावना प्रबल हो जाती है। हम कई उत्तरों, बहुत कम स्पष्टता, और लोगों के बीच बढ़ते वियोग के समय में रहते हैं।
उत्तर के विपरीत, प्रतिक्रिया एक क्रिया है। एक प्रतिक्रिया एक प्रश्न द्वारा परिभाषित की जाती है और अर्थ प्रदान करती है। यह मुझे किसी मुद्दे के बारे में महसूस होने वाली तात्कालिकता को कार्रवाई में बदलने की अनुमति देता है। हमें मानवीय पीड़ाओं के प्रति अधिक प्रतिक्रिया और कम निश्चित उत्तरों की आवश्यकता है।
मनन के लिए मूल प्रश्न: आप इस धारणा से कैसे सम्बद्ध हैं कि प्रतिक्रिया उत्तर से भिन्न होती है? क्या आप अपना कोई अनुभव साझा कर सकते हैं जब आपने नैतिक बल को नम्रता और कोमलता के साथ संतुलित किया हो? उत्तर के बजाय प्रतिक्रिया के साथ नेतृत्व करने में क्या बात आपकी मदद करती है?
Rabbi Ariel Burger is an author and educator. Excerpt above is adapted from this article.
SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the notion that a response is different from an answer? Can you share an experience of a time you balanced moral ferocity with humility and tenderness? What helps you lead with a response instead of an answer?
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On Aug 30, 2021 abbe rolnick wrote :
I've often find myself in the gray area, seeing the validity of many differing parties, I to make choices that lean and waiver.... When in doubt, I seek kindness first, analysis later. As a Bubbie, i reflect on my grandchildren, their curiously, their willingness to listen. I have a responsibility to to reflect and offer suggestions. Knowing I don't have answers helps. I share insights.... and they reflect back a rainbow of options.
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On Aug 30, 2021 Coletta wrote :
This important difference between "response" and "answer" does indeed open up a sense of humility in my own self. Openness, and open tenderness, i.e. vulnerability, require such courage and self-reflection,. Rabbi Burger is defining "response" in a very particular way.. The word "response" implies "responsibility", "responsiveness", and so for me opens up another important difference: a "reflective", attuned response vs a "reflexive" self-gratifying response. "Eye for an eye" is, after all, a response one could make - a reflexive response which as Gandhi suggested, makes the whole world blind (and perhaps in light of this discussion is actually an "answer", and not a response). And while "Turning the other cheek" requires containment and self restraint, a truly reflective, attuned response, as described by a previous comment, is the grandma who scooped up her grandson and respo... [View Full Comment]
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On Aug 14, 2021 Elaine Gotfryd Noonan wrote :
"We need the humilityof consistent self-examination" I feel is a most important statement. This is our basis of where all of our ideas, thoughts, and conversations are processed. If we are in a balanced place we can respond and not merely answer which is definitive and closes down conversation. This open process will encourage idea sharing and improved respectful communication.
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On Aug 3, 2021 Amy wrote :
My grandson (Frankie) has yet to be diagnosed, but has some "issues". My granddaughter (Evie) is 2 years younger than her bother Frankie, and has had to be super flexible in the past three years of her little 3 year old life with her 5 year old brother. Making a long story short, with hands on his hips, Frankie was lording over his sister yet once again (waiting for her to get out of a chair he did not want her to occupy. Grandma Amy's "response" today, was to pick her grandson up and walk him to the back yard to the swing set ... where we swangand talked about coopering, loving, being flexible, what was going on in his head ... feeling the sunshine and working on our "calm". Answers work for Frankie when talking about "Woolley Mamoths" ... but not for matters regarding "relationships". Best to respond.
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On Aug 3, 2021 Reader wrote :
Q: Say a child asks his Mom: Mum, why do the little children in our neighborhood have no food?
A: Mum may answer: Because the parents do not have money to buy food.
The response could be: Let's cook food for them together!
A: Mum may answer: Because the parents do not have money to buy food.
The response could be: Let's cook food for them together!
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On Aug 3, 2021 Jean wrote :
An answer is often immediate, while a response requires reflection.
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On Aug 3, 2021 sivakambika Ramakrishnan wrote :
If a question receives an answer..the question 'Dies' because the same question in another time will receive or have another answer. Question is ONE answers are MANY. They need validation. It is the function of the intellect. Is blunt. Learning stops with answers
Response is in the NOW. Needs intelligence....not intellect.. Response is infused with tenderness. Encourages learning...discovery.
Response is in the NOW. Needs intelligence....not intellect.. Response is infused with tenderness. Encourages learning...discovery.
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On Aug 2, 2021 Anilkumar Pandit wrote :
Response is, "Let's explore further to enhance happiness" on lines of 'ShikshaValli and AnandValli' chapters of Taitreya Upanisad.
There is never a final definitive answer, but the path mentioned in the first two Vallis (chapters) lead to Bhrigu Valli (becoming a Guru) and thereby a becoming a Go-to person.
There is never a final definitive answer, but the path mentioned in the first two Vallis (chapters) lead to Bhrigu Valli (becoming a Guru) and thereby a becoming a Go-to person.
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On Jul 30, 2021 David Doane wrote :
A response is what you are experiencing as you take in the other and what s/he says or does. Your response is what you are feeling, sensing, thinking, imagining, and your expressing of it. A response is present and fluid. It's a personal sharing and tends to welcome the response of the other. One definition of an answer is that it is a solution and it typically is intellectual and impersonal. An answer is about an issue or subject, not about the person giving it. And as Rabbi Burger states, an answer tends to be definitive and closes down further discussion. Ferocity is fierce and cruel aggression. I don't value ferocity. I do value assertiveness and some non-fierce aggression. I think ferocity and tenderness don't balance -- they are either or. My effort is to balance assertiveness and non-fierce aggression with tenderness. Factors that help me to lead with a response include my motivation being right, the situation appearing to be right for me to respond, and my strongly ... [View Full Comment]
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On Jul 30, 2021 Jagdish P Dave wrote :
An "answer" is definitive with no openness.It has no room for an open endeddiscussion and a dialogue. A responseis an invitation with an open mind and humility for self-examination. A response has an empathic and open-minded understanding of different perspectives instead of close-minded authoritarian stance: My way is the only right way and there is no other away of addressing and working on personal, interpersonal and collective questions and challenges.
Morality is one of the core elements of personal, interpersonal and social well-being. The question is how am I relating to morality in my personal, interpersonal, and social life? Am I relating to morality in a ferocious and arrogant way or with empathy, humility and tenderness? I maintain a balance between being genuine and empathic, candid and kind.This is the way I practice morality in my personal and interpersonal life. There are times when I lose this dynamic balanceand judge myself and otherssomewhat harshly. Such e... [View Full Comment]