SEED QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: How do you relate to the act of giving being more important than the strategy of giving? Can you share a personal story of a time when the distinction between the strategy of giving and the act of giving became clear to you? How do you reconcile 'giving without strategizing' with 'mindful giving'?
Loved the story.
Giving is not about showing people that you give but giving it secretly without any exchange.
-joann
Loved the message, beautiful.
It is always worthwhile to come to this site. It's like a temple ð
Recently, Audrey mentioned Adam Grant's book Give and Take - and mentioned the idea of 'closeted givers'. I liked the idea of outing the givers - because there is a large number of givers who prefer to remain anonymous and closeted. This silence is clouding the way the world may be experienced - so lets out the givers and make it okay to give so easily that it is normal and public - like all ordinary behaviors.
The story comparing Arjuna and Karna is perfect. I love it because it is all of us. I cannot count the times in my life that I have gotten caught in the "greatness of my giving," emphasis on "my." How perfect an example to model: giving without thought, then, moving on into the next moment. One of my personalities is "the teacher," so, too often I find myself getting absorbed in the desire of sharing my wisdom. I am in a new relationship with a woman who is so unattached to her instinctual wisdom, her words are always just her opinion with no desire to do anything other than
"utter the truth." She never tries to instruct, and because of this, she becomes, like Karna, the best giver of all of us.
Beautiful story. Two thoughts: the act of giving should always be with no expectations & with no strings attached. It is important for the giver to think deeply about what is being given; is it what is truly needed by the receiver? This story illustrates this powerfully by allowing the receiver to decide what is best. The philanthropic and charitable world could learn much from this story. :)
Having just returned from presenting at a Storytelling Festival in Iran, there were countless experiences of Iranians giving from their hearts, minds and souls in ways that lifted us all up, connected us and created deep & lasting bonds. Grateful for the experience!
Hugs to all of us.
Mindful giving is giving from the heart. <3
I always say that I give because I'm selfish. I love the way it makes me feel. Now I need to practice this selfless form of giving. Thanks for sharing.
This reflection is so appropriate for me at this time as my journey of Giving to strangers is in the initial phase. Thank You.
Very stunning example of giving. It seem to go even above the level of giving-with-no-selfish-intent. I feel very happy to read this example and be aware of such level of giving. Thanks for this post...
Amazing story and really struck me hard.. But had another parallel thought, have found that the ego typically comes in any act of kindness. We can usually hear people talk about the number of trees they planted or the number of people they have helped.. although there is nothing wrong in those phrases..the challenge is for the giver not to be there when the giving happens :)
Thank you for this wonderful narrative from the epic Mahabharat , ancient Indian wisdom that has withstood the test of time . For me Giving represents just give , without any agenda of my own , from the bottom of my heart and then moving on . That is it .
God gave . . . God gives . . . And God continues to, in Love, give. As a thank you to my Father, I use His gift to pass along His gift to others. God demonstrates, perfectly, the act of giving without "strategy". God's gift begets life. "Strategies" gift begets confusion. . . Lots of strings attached.
I love, too, how God's gift cannot be "bought". It comes with the price we each put on our faith, trust, hope and relationship with Him. Too, we cannot lie re our motives to God! Thanks be! There is equity in Him. His gift is the same for all who believe.
Amen.
"I only get to keep that which I am prepared to give up. In Western terms, virtue is its own reward. There is no hope of redemption in doing good in order to be saved. Only by doing good for its own sake, without seeking reward, can we attain salvation." That quote by Sheldon Kopp is a favorite of mine. When I give simply to give or in response to a need, my giving is pure. When I give with some ulterior motive such as to get something in return or inflate my ego or to make the other happy, my giving is strategic. I think I saw at a young age that giving can be pure or manipulative, and the distinction became more obvious over time. A great deal of giving is strategic, and pure non-strategic giving stands out as special. Sometimes my giving is strategic even when I think it's pure. Being mindful of my giving helps me be aware of my true motives and be aware of whether I'm giving with or without strategizing.