How Much Silence Is Too Much?

I always value a balance between talking and remaing silent; a balance between open mouth and closed mouth. I apply this principle in my communication with people in my dail life. When I do not have such balance, my communication with people becomes shallow, superficial, and inauthentic. In order to have a deep and authentic communication, we need to learn to listen attentively, to be silent to process our ideas, thoughts and feelings. Between stimulus and resonse, there is a gap and in that gap of silence, deep and genuine communication is born. Silence, reflecion and empathic unnderstanding are the core ingrediants of deep and genuine communication. I have learned to create dynamic balance between talking and maintainig alive silence. In my couple counseling sessions, I teach this balance and I see how this practice helps the couple to be engaged with each other in deep and meaninful ways. When and why seeking sloitude is very important. The purpose of seeking solitude is not avoid engagement with each other. The purpose is to take time out to have a quiet space to reflect deeply on what works and what diesn't work in remaining engaged with each other. This way seeking solitude is not a trap but to enrich relaionnships. It is a blessinng. Namaste! Jagdish P Dave

I posted a reply as well and read your reply with deep attention . Yes balance and self recharging is essential . I see many retreating to video games, constant motion ( including myself at times) as their escape from other mental noise and stress . Going from one noise to another does not help the prior.