Two Types Of Heartbreaks

I believe the heart is supple by nature and our nature is to take it all in. I believe we learn to fear and build an inner wall to not take it all in which results over time in a dried up, hard and brittle heart. There are times that I have taken in life's deaths with healthy anesthetics, mainly care both given and received, and with involvements that have been good for me and others, all of which have helped me to accept the life death and have resulted in making my heart more soft. For me, unhealthy anesthetics are those that deny or fight the life death, such as many drugs, legal and illegal, which leave the heart walled off and result in its becoming more hard and brittle. What helps me is knowing that it's all reality that I'm being presented with and my accepting that and dealing with it keeps me and my heart supple, growing and alive.

Beautifully written. I agree, our hearts are supple by nature. Not brittle and closed. The way we are accepted or not by family, classmates, bosses and bullies can put walls around our shame of not being what others want us to be. When we find a gentle way to walk through and find ourselves, the heartbreaking events that always arise can be processed, as our suffering is open to the grace of ourselves and our openheartedness to Life.

Thank you for responding. It is we, not others, who put walls around our selves, our hearts -- maybe for good reason it is we who do it.