Self-Compassion Over Self-Esteem

The fact is, no one makes you feel big, small, or anything. Self-esteem based on comparison with others is dependent and conditional, and as Kristine Neffsays is likely to bounce around like a png pong ball. Self-esteem based on self comes from inside, is not based on outside conditions. Self-esteem based on comparison with others is different than self-esteem based on self. Compassion means sympathy for someone who is suffering problems. Self-compassion means sympathy that I am suffering problems, and I accept that. As a youth, when my self-esteem was based on what others thought of me, I was goal-directed and pursued self-esteem by trying to impress others. Knowing that to be human is to have problems helps me have self-compassion. For me, valuing me and how I deal with life and problems is self-esteem.