This important difference between "response" and "answer" does indeed open up a sense of humility in my own self. Openness, and open tenderness, i.e. vulnerability, require such courage and self-reflection,. Rabbi Burger is defining "response" in a very particular way.. The word "response" implies "responsibility", "responsiveness", and so for me opens up another important difference: a "reflective", attuned response vs a "reflexive" self-gratifying response. "Eye for an eye" is, after all, a response one could make - a reflexive response which as Gandhi suggested, makes the whole world blind (and perhaps in light of this discussion is actually an "answer", and not a response). And while "Turning the other cheek" requires containment and self restraint, a truly reflective, attuned response, as described by a previous comment, is the grandma who scooped up her grandson and responded to his state of distress, the underlying cause for his aggression, with calm, attentive, tender care. Beautiful.
On Aug 30, 2021 Coletta wrote :