When I listen better, it helps me not to think about "what I am going to answer when the other person finishes speaking"... If I am on the defensive, I will only think of myself and not listen to the other person's deep need. I can bring my attention to the body and not add fuel to the fire.
Sometimes there is no need to answer either. Listen. Allow the other person to speak. Even, if someone tells us about a problem, listen in silence, without giving solutions ... Offer space without judgment. Just presence. Just love. The other person will feel better and safe, just sharing that problem and those feelings...
On Apr 27, 2020 Juan Carlos wrote :
When I listen better, it helps me not to think about "what I am going to answer when the other person finishes speaking"... If I am on the defensive, I will only think of myself and not listen to the other person's deep need. I can bring my attention to the body and not add fuel to the fire.
Sometimes there is no need to answer either. Listen. Allow the other person to speak. Even, if someone tells us about a problem, listen in silence, without giving solutions ... Offer space without judgment. Just presence. Just love. The other person will feel better and safe, just sharing that problem and those feelings...