Tenzin Palmo equates heart of warmth with love, so I'll go with that. To me, developing a heart of warmth includes recognizing that the other is a person just like me, being genuinely caring about the other, being respectful, wanting the other to develop his or her own unique self and be happy and healthy, and wanting the other to be a capable independent adult. It is a relationship in which there is not dependence such as clinging, or manipulation such as guilt-giving. I can't make the other happy, and no one can make me happy -- I can be caring, kind, independent, respectful, and honest, which usually contributes to my being happy and also to the other being happy. I've experienced love as a tremendous opening of the heart in loving relationships, including and especially with my wife. What helps me develop a heart of warmth is experiencing it either in myself or in an other, realizing how satisfying it is, and wanting more. None of us do what we could, as we could always do more -- we do what we do, so do it with love. It is true that what I do affects everyone and everything else.
On Jan 24, 2020 David Doane wrote :