My first thought is Gandhi's well-known statement to "Be the change you want to see in the world." The strategy of reducing the opposing factor while fanning the flames of the virtuous quality makes total sense to me. Neglect the negative behavior, replace it with positive behavior, and repeat the positive behavior. It takes effort and diligence. Really, is there another way? As I get older and hopefully a little wiser, I often refrain from anger that I would have fostered in the past. What helps me refrain from anger is my becoming convinced that anger is not necessary. I can express other ways, including disagree, object, assert, walk away, do whatever a different way. I become most angry at myself -- I'm still working on eliminating that one. Reminding myself through reflection and meditation that we are one and we are each expressions of One Source lessens negative emotions in me and fans the flames of compassion, and my feeling better for being that way keeps me going.
On Oct 18, 2015 david doane wrote :
My first thought is Gandhi's well-known statement to "Be the change you want to see in the world." The strategy of reducing the opposing factor while fanning the flames of the virtuous quality makes total sense to me. Neglect the negative behavior, replace it with positive behavior, and repeat the positive behavior. It takes effort and diligence. Really, is there another way? As I get older and hopefully a little wiser, I often refrain from anger that I would have fostered in the past. What helps me refrain from anger is my becoming convinced that anger is not necessary. I can express other ways, including disagree, object, assert, walk away, do whatever a different way. I become most angry at myself -- I'm still working on eliminating that one. Reminding myself through reflection and meditation that we are one and we are each expressions of One Source lessens negative emotions in me and fans the flames of compassion, and my feeling better for being that way keeps me going.