My mantra for a long time has been 'process, not outcome.' Focus on right action, as Buddhism advises, and leave outcome to forces outside your control. In interpersonal interactions, I revel in times I trust the process, that is, times that I stay present, go with what I am experiencing, and let outcome happen. What helps me trust and stay committed to process and not try to control outcome is the positive outcomes that occur when I do that. Also, I know that going with present process is within my power (I'm human) and outcome is outside my power (I'm not God). Also, I love the excitement and aliveness of commitment to the process, and don't like the dullness and deadness I feel in outcome focus. Also, I like the openness and freedom I feel in process focus and don't like being controlling and manipulative as I am when trying to control outcome.
On Oct 5, 2019 david doane wrote :