Attachment is Habitual Thinking

 To me, attachment means holding on in a way that I am gripping it and locked onto or into it.  This attachment can be to a person, a group, a thing, a viewpoint, a way of behaving.  I agree with the author that my perception of reality is through the filter of habitual thinking which can distort what is being perceived and can become like "an old phonograph record that keeps skipping at the same spot."  He is mistaken in saying that we react with anger in some situations and we can't help it.  If our reactions really are uncontrollable and we really can't help it, it doesn't present "an opportunity to change" and we wouldn't be able to change.  Though attachment can be intense, detachment and change are possible.  What has helped me become more aware of some of my attachments is learning about attachment, reflecting on my ways, and discovering at least some of my attachments.  An example from personal experience is that I was very attached to my belief that my way was the right way.  I'm less attached to that perception.  Now I see that my is my way, and I'm not even sure my way is the right way for me.  And now I am much more tolerant of and accepting of and even valuing of others' ways.  Such detachment has resulted in my being more easy going, more open, more at peace, more happy, and more liked.  And there is a lot of detaching yet to do.

 I very much agree and can relate to your words, David.  Thank you for your sharing!

 I am a self professed "people pleaser".  I like everyone to feel loved, welcome, forgiven and free to be the people God created them to be.  Throughout my life, I find myself more 'attached' to people, faiths and beliefs that show kindness and respect to ALL God's people.  
Too, I have some issues r/t attention deficit. In this, God has taught me to 'attach' myself to Him (Jesus and Holy Spirit).  Distracted by so many details . . . must dos . . . to belong/to be called worthy/to be enough . . . I was sinking (and fast).  Just like Peter, in walking on the water, Jesus asked me to SIMPLY attach myself/attention/gaze/spirit to Him/His.  
Attachments simplified, I am no longer drowning (most days, that is).
Related to my need to people please, God says, "PLEASE ME".  In trying my best to do this, in/with the truth He Instills in me, I can best love, welcome, forgive and celebrate people!  Why?  . . . Because it pleases Him.