I do notice myself being less judgmental, but judgments of others still occur. What helps me be less judgmental is to be aware of the judgmentalness and not foster it, let it go. Awareness that I and others are one also helps me judge less. What also helps me be less judgmental is awareness that I don't know where someone is coming from, what experience or context or history their action is coming from, which seems to make me more compassionate. Selfishness as attachment to what I want is the root of anger. Being truly attached to what I want and not getting what I want can easily result in anger. I've done that many times in my life, and as I've grown a little in nonattachment I am more accepting and less angry. "Performing one's duty perfectly" means to me focus on process, not outcome. That is, performing or engaging in the process perfectly, be it an interaction or a behavior or whatever, and not worry about the outcome, detach from the outcome, and trust that a good outcome will happen.
On Sep 23, 2012 david doane wrote :