Thanks for the opportunity to respond. What has helped me move beyond the apparent insecurity of change is realizing that everything constantly changes. Accepting "what is" is a key to peaceful living. My practice and study of Zen Buddhism has helped me greatly. A friend sent me an e-mail with the following points that I call the mental stem learnings. They help to bring about peace and happiness. They are:
1.Increase the tendency to let things happen rather than make things happen.
2.Have frequent attacks of smiling.
3.Have feelings of being connected with others and nature.
4.Have frequent, almost overwhelming, episodes of appreciation.
5.Have the tendency to think and act spontaneously, rather than from fears based on past experiences.
6.Have an unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment, and to make the best out of each experience.
7. Lose the ability to worry.
8. Lose interest in conflict.
9. Lose interest in interpreting the actions of others.
10. Lose interest in judging others.
11. Lose interest in judging self.
12. Be compassionate to self and others without expecting anything in return.
On Dec 3, 2011 Conrad wrote :
Thanks for the opportunity to respond. What has helped me move beyond the apparent insecurity of change is realizing that everything constantly changes. Accepting "what is" is a key to peaceful living. My practice and study of Zen Buddhism has helped me greatly. A friend sent me an e-mail with the following points that I call the mental stem learnings. They help to bring about peace and happiness. They are:
1. Increase the tendency to let things happen rather than make things happen.
2. Have frequent attacks of smiling.
3. Have feelings of being connected with others and nature.
4. Have frequent, almost overwhelming, episodes of appreciation.
5. Have the tendency to think and act spontaneously, rather than from fears based on past experiences.
6. Have an unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment, and to make the best out of each experience.
7. Lose the ability to worry.
8. Lose interest in conflict.
9. Lose interest in interpreting the actions of others.
10. Lose interest in judging others.
11. Lose interest in judging self.
12. Be compassionate to self and others without expecting anything in return.