Feeling alone is a mistake, and an illusion, because we're really not alone. No one is an island. I don't think everyone or everything is waiting for me, but they are with me as part of this world, and I can reach out and connect rather than be alone. It's not necessary to be alone. I've been in groups in which I felt close connection with the others, and felt listened to, cared about and known. Such experiences are grand, loving, and intimate. When my aloneness is lonely, heavy, miserable for me, I put down the weight of my aloneness and reach out, or at least I can, and make an effort to connect with another. For me, it often hasn't been easing into connection and often has felt difficult but it is preferable and holds more possibility than remaining in an aloneness that is miserable. Usually I know that my aloneness is my own creation, and I know that my ending my aloneness and reaching out is also up to me.
On Apr 8, 2018 david doane wrote :
Feeling alone is a mistake, and an illusion, because we're really not alone. No one is an island. I don't think everyone or everything is waiting for me, but they are with me as part of this world, and I can reach out and connect rather than be alone. It's not necessary to be alone. I've been in groups in which I felt close connection with the others, and felt listened to, cared about and known. Such experiences are grand, loving, and intimate. When my aloneness is lonely, heavy, miserable for me, I put down the weight of my aloneness and reach out, or at least I can, and make an effort to connect with another. For me, it often hasn't been easing into connection and often has felt difficult but it is preferable and holds more possibility than remaining in an aloneness that is miserable. Usually I know that my aloneness is my own creation, and I know that my ending my aloneness and reaching out is also up to me.