@Catherine I agree with you in that if all you're getting from them is "bombs" then you need to stand up for yourself.
If we're not strong inside then saying that we forgive other people is pointless because we would never have been able to oppose them more forcefully anyway.
But what you don't want to do is to dwell on the pain inflicted upon you by others or to dwell on their deficiencies. And this is where forgiveness comes in play. So even when you resist them and fight back you carry the understanding that whatever negativity they are expressing is a result of even deeper pain and dissatisfaction they have within themselves which has nothing to do with you.
Thus, you do what you need to do keep your peace but you have no need to hate them or dwell on what they do/did to you because they are suffering even more than you are. And if you can look at it this way then you will find that it no longer affects you. You act in the moment and then move on.
On Mar 11, 2011 Rambo wrote :
@Catherine I agree with you in that if all you're getting from them is "bombs" then you need to stand up for yourself.
If we're not strong inside then saying that we forgive other people is pointless because we would never have been able to oppose them more forcefully anyway.
But what you don't want to do is to dwell on the pain inflicted upon you by others or to dwell on their deficiencies. And this is where forgiveness comes in play. So even when you resist them and fight back you carry the understanding that whatever negativity they are expressing is a result of even deeper pain and dissatisfaction they have within themselves which has nothing to do with you.
Thus, you do what you need to do keep your peace but you have no need to hate them or dwell on what they do/did to you because they are suffering even more than you are. And if you can look at it this way then you will find that it no longer affects you. You act in the moment and then move on.