Regardless of the variety in life of what the child may experience, while I agree parents must make the child their top priority in all beneficial ways possible...when can the adult child be expected to choose to see their parents with the compassion and acceptance that they feel they were deprived? Such as this being the discussion vs. to notice where in life as adults their parents fell short raising them, and to blame that?
How is it so obvious we grow up and know what we lived growing up as good or not good enough? What if their memory is incorrect? Why not instead give in return and all the more, in ways that they feel they lacked receiving growing up as young children?
I've witnessed this scenario where the adult kids seem compelled to retaliate, as they've been counseled to do for parents who lived with struggles while managing them well enough to provide very good lives for their children. Only to be judged and disowned by their children due to their dissatisfaction with life.
Since when do all parents fall short with their children aways on purpose?
On Oct 23, 2024 karen wrote :