The False Self From Childhood

I am sick and tired of mothers and "caregivers" being expected to be the be-all and end-all of "giving a child x y z" or the poor child "won't develop properly." Why not just accept that we all don't get what we want or need all the time and this World is NOT here to do this? Stop blaming mothers and expecting them to be some kind of SAINT. If the child was fed and clothes and lived to adulthood with the help of the mother, then say THANK YOU to her and let the child grow up in the REAL WORLD as WE KNOW IT and AS IT IS. The world is NOT always "helpful, cozy, welcoming and warm." Growing into adulthood has some self-obligations as well. Yes, that is what it means to GROW UP.