Equanimity is inner peace and composure especially in difficult circumstances. It is the opposite of agitation. The more the agitation, the less equanimity. Equanimity is the opposite of 'to lose it' meaning to lose being calm and in charge of self and becoming very upset. When my father died, I sobbed in a way I don't remember ever doing before. Yet I had a sense of being in charge of allowing myself to let go and let myself sob. It was good for me. The opposite of equanimity is to lose being in charge of my upsetness which I might do in a bigger catastrophe or trauma. What helps me avoid attachment to the 'good side' is practicing nonattachment in general. I'm not very good at nonattachment. What also helps me is to remind myself that nothing lasts, the good and the bad pass, and 'this too will pass.'
On Feb 9, 2024 David Doane wrote :