I believe holding space with someone can be to simply listen attentively and respectfully, which supports and helps a person talk and deal with a personal problem. I usually do more in holding space than listen and witness, including to offer my authentic response in the moment. For me, holding space is providing a container in which a person feels safe, cared about, heard and can be open to talk. I have been provided that space, and there are times I have provided that space. What helps me be with someone in that way is my belief that it is growthful for the other and me. When I do well in such a situation, I'm with the person in the present, I pay attention, I listen and witness, and I share my truth. I'm not judgmental -- I do have judgments and use my judgments along with whatever I am experiencing in being with the person.
On Oct 27, 2023 David Doane wrote :