I believe that real me is 'inner greatness', and shame is surface me's degradation of real 'inner greatness' me. I think of surface me as ego. Shame indicates surface me is a problem. I see humility as accepting me for who I am. It's surface me that needs some waking up and improving, not real 'inner greatness' me. Surface me has accepted 'inner greatness' me fully shadow and all occasionally when I feel inner I did something really well and/or feel very good about myself. What helps me avoid the trap of comparing with others is knowing that comparing is a losing venture. Comparing distracts me from paying attention to real me and being me. Also, comparing begins my being competitive with the other which for me is another losing venture.
On Jul 21, 2023 David Doane wrote :