Reading this passage reminds me of a song written by Rabindranath Tagore: A lover tells his beloved:Jaisi ho veshioho ajao shringarko rhenodo. Come as you are without any ourward special decorations. He is waiting for her with no expectations. His mind is open, unclouded, relaxed and unconditioned. I love you only if-such conditionaled mind
creates expectations causing disappointments, hurt, grief, distress, and misery. Such a mindset works both ways. It causes disappointment and grief intrapersonally and interpersonally. I have learned from my personal experiences to relate to people and situations with an open and empatheic way without buildin up a huge tower of expectations and that way causing my own disappointment and depression, and frustration and anger. Waiting with an open mind has been very helpful to me. A mind that's closed has no chance to be happy and peaceful. A mind that is open and relaxed opens the portal to joy, happiness, love, and peace.
Cultivating such a clear, compassionate, and authentic mindest takes time, patience, and peseverance. I am grateful to my parents and teachers who became role models to me for cultivating empathic, compassionate and midful ways of relating and loving people in my life unconditionally and joyfully. What a blessing!
Namaste!
Jagdish P Dave
On Jun 3, 2023 Jagdish P Dave wrote :