Being Nice Isn't The Same As Being Kind

I am usually nice . sometimes I am not even nice. But rarely kind as per the author Donna. When I introspect , I see that why I am nice is because it makes me feel good. It increase my dopamine levels when I smile at someone and the person smiles back. When I give a material gift to someone I feel good. But the point I wish to ponder (after reading and rereading this passage ) is why I am Nice. Is my goal only feeling good. Can I not strive for a state which is higher than just feeling good. Can I not be so involved with the giving that it becomes a habit and I do it even when it may or not necessarily make me feel good. Can the giving be done in such a way that the giving and the receiving becomes secondary and what matters is just the dance of joy .

I like what you wrote and shared. Thanks. Somewhere along the way I learned that virtue is its own reward -- I remind myself of that and sometimes live it.

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