I am familiar with panic attacks and states of mind similar to the neurosis depicted in this writing. Lowering expectations in that state of mind can be consoling, perhaps. Not wanting much. Not expecting much. And therefore be satisfied with very little.
But there is more to life than the drudgery of mundane existence. No one can really thrive on low expectations. We all need a lot, emotionally, to thrive. We need friends, intimacy, sense of closeness, someone to care for, and to be cared for back. We need LOVE.
What it takes to have what we need is a lot. To develop friendships worth the name, and close relationships you can really rely on takes a lot of love GIVEN, a lot of energy, effort, dedication, investment of time and attention. Only giving a lot we have a chance for something truly fulfilling.
It’s not about EXPECTING a lot back from someone in particular. And it’s not about tit for tat: I give this, so I can GET back. Giving itself is a reward. It grows your heart. And even though it’s not easy, it gives a sense of connection and purpose. Friends do come. Love does come. Sometimes in a way least expected. But having faith in it is key.
Having low expectations may easily result in overlooking opportunities for something truly beautiful. Having low expectations, you can miss out on something far better than a solitary cup of tea.
On Jan 21, 2023 Eva wrote :