Waiting without expectation is not necessarily good and waiting with an expectation is not necessarily bad. Are they not part of our life? And we must cherish every bit of our life that is what my belief is. Being a homemaker I have lot of time to spare and lot of waiting time too. But I have never felt unhappy about it. However, I have learnt many ways so that I could engage myself in some kind of work. It is human nature, some crib about waiting time while others whine about having to work like machine and need some waiting time. Running time or waiting time is all 'Our Precious Time' of our lives which we will never get back. How to use those time is up to us, to make it beautiful.
In the series of events in our life, where good, bad or ugly would be a part and parcel, each of us have our own share of it. There are situations in our lives that we have not experienced yet we have an opinion. We may not know what the other is undergoing and yet we have an advice for them. Intentionally or unintentionally our remarks or behaviour will be the reason for someone’s pain yet we have no consideration. However, when we are in the similar condition or phase we are stressed. We blame others, expect understanding. Even if we regret our past mistakes, we never admit or apologise even though it may haunt us.
We need to understand is, practically it is not possible for ourselves to be always right. So, can’t we go a step ahead to apologise when we realise our mistake. And in case, if it is the other way round, shouldn’t we just let it go with smile, thinking that poor thing must not have experienced the situation, which could be the reason for rudeness.
It would be a bold statement to say that we can always forgive everything and everyone for whatever they do. However, if we stress ourselves for others wrong doing, aren’t we punishing ourselves for the mistakes committed by others? We should know to let go, for ouselves to have a peaceful life and believe in our KARMA. KARMA is a boomerang, it will revert back sooner or later.
Everything comes with a purpose. Night we sleep because it is dark. Darkness implies dark times of our life where we spend sleeping, which also means it is meant to rest. Rest our body,and organs, relaxing & calming our mind and soul. It also indicates a transition period from darkness to light. In turn sunlight brings energy, hope and a dream of a good day ahead.
I personally believe, every difficulty in my life made me think better and develop stronger version of myself. If I would not have faced difficulty, I probably might not understand the pain one goes through, and I would have been insensitive to their agony. Now I feel alive to understand and resolve others problem. I totally feel connected and exactly feel the feeling one undergoes.
There was a time I was shunned and I did not speak, for not 4 weeks or 4 months but for almost 4 years. Faced countless emotional difficulties. But with every difficulty it evolved me, and if one does not loose hope, work hard towards the positivity, then happiness is inevitable. And one who has foundtrue happiness, the need to grasp counterfeit gold nullifies.
Sorry Sir, I feel irrespective what our upbringing was, how our childhood was, one can bring positive change in oneself. What I learnt in my life is ............. I can give others what I was deprived of..... i.e. love, affection and care.....because I know its importance in our lives....... and I can also give what I already have......positive thoughts..... positive vibes.
In this case, I am a little selfish......I love to smile and see everyone happy....so I make efforts to, try to bring positive changes in people around me......
True, none of us can choose a family where we are born. It is beyond our control. Each of us get to face right and wrong, good and bad. It is practically impossible to have each and everything perfect in our life. But with every wrong it gives us an opportunity to learn and with every right it gives hope to better ourselves.
Being a girl born in a conservative family, with lots of society norms, I had no right to even decide my own dress, forget about the life partner. Born in a South Indian family, the only freedom I enjoyed was a freedom to education. I never felt its importance when I was little.But this freedom of education opened my path to my beautiful life. Life of hope and independent decisions.
Ultimately, our life leads us to the decision we make. Our decisions always reflects in our life. I am fortunate and blessed with life where I get to live the life, which I never thought was possible when I was in my teens.
I totally believe that different world is possible because even after being born and brought up in conservative family, I wear western outfits which I am comfortable with, worked as a counselor in the international level, opted for love marriage and live life with my terms. What more I would expect from life. I am so gratefulto GOD to be blessed and hope in return I could be of some use to people and bring smile in their lives.
So true, not to conjure up with all kind of imaginations and empty ourselves with those idle and unwanted thoughts. We are continuously in the process of thinking. Stress, anxiety clouding our mind makes our thought vague and us vulnerable. To have clear mind, it is very much necessary to empty it and fill it with positive thought and always do something that could bring smile to someones face.
It is not necessary we get everything in our life that we have expected, it can never be possible. But we can make it better and beautiful by cleansing ourselves physically and mentally every now and then. Letting go the unwanted and nurturing whatever we have...that is our present.
On Jun 6, 2023 Usha Shetty wrote on The Simplest Meditation: Waiting, by Peter Russell: