During my dark crucible nights of substance abuse, I was left with no choice but to Accept and fully embrace that fragmented part of me that I have denied, judged and repressed for decades. UNTIL I was able to do that with Awareness (it took several deaths followed by resurrections toward Rebirth).... that which I resisted ... persisted. The gifts are numerous and ineffable ie authentic self love that lead me to compassion. First, toward myself that I can now extend to others. This Awareness without judgement IS true freedom.
On Sep 22, 2015 Marisa HarNadh wrote on To Have Without Holding, by Marge Piercy:
i loved 'him' for 30 yrs amidst our marriage to someone else, amidst the lovers that came after. Holding the space for him for that long unfolded many layers of unconditionally love. At 50 and securely in my spiritual path and life purpose, another layer of letting go presented itself to me. I thought to myself, why not REALLY re-lease him, with all the love and blessing, I did... maturity and authenticity are now my allies. I will always love him, the having and holding is no longer a hunger. I Am Free.