There is a young boy who was a gardener at home....this boy was so stubborn so immune to advise that he annoyed me every time I talked to him....until a time I realized that this young man was mirroring the a pain body in me that he was fueling each time there was a confrontation...he only did things that increased my anger....until I realized it was all about me not him...he had his own traumatic wounds and they were similar to my own childhood wounds (traumas).
Am humbled especially by the generative listening...I must say it is a healing type of listening that we must engage in ...80% of the time we spend listening...If this was what we were engaged in
..then there would be less of wars...less diseases...less stress and less unwanted characters....
For worldly feeling...it is pleasant but so short lived compared to the soul feeling...A scenario I can relate to is one time when we went for a group retreat, colleagues commended me for the organized system of collecting funds and allocating roles...then came the evening when we went on a boat to watch the sun set...this sun setting scenario has stayed with me since!...three years now...yet the praises that I received never even lasted for a week...Hence soul feeling is far more fulfilling and enduring in comparison to worldly feeling...
I agree 100% with what palmer points out, when we give out from a place of non abundance...call it scarcity...then we experience burnout...Using an example of a naturally gifted musician...they will never experience burnout giving to the world their gift...even after old age...Think of Dolly parton...she has been a musician for since she was a youth, til old age...she still gives the world what she was destined to give, because, it is abundant in her!...I burnout quickly with romantic relationships...meaning that's not my calling here, am not abundant in that area...what has helped me realize that is being open minded and reflecting on other people's gifts and abundance...we are gifted uniquely (abundant in different ways)...that's what makes the world a wonderful place to be!
What helps me recognize the reflection of the ultimate unconditional love in others is the oneness of love from the source that we as souls share...we are each a small particle of the bigger particle...This we are one and the same...if we keep fragmenting...the bigger particle will loss power and beauty!!!
Liz...the wife was absolutely wise in showing a sweet aggression...like she mentioned...this guy must have missed out some sweetness from childhood...definitely the lollipop was a perfect gift!!!
The sweetness of toddlers...they cry after crying...they automatically become joyful and exhuberate...the cloud of tears and a little nagging is just at the surface...but deep in the toddlers what you find is joy ...love and tenderness...that gives me strength to retain wonder and refuse to go into cynicism...nature is beautiful...when you allow to look deep into the world...you will never cease to wonder...Thank you so very much Fabiana...this piece is deeply inspiring!...
What I learn from this is that...it is not what you offer others that matters...but the love accompanying the gift is the major issue...giving from your heart not from your head... is the essence...and that's what the disheveled lady did... offered her all from her heart...the rest offered lavish gifts but it wasn't their all...not even 1% of their all...I suppose.
This is when I was in form eleven...we were preparing for an national exam....and we needed to thoroughly prepare for the exam...but we were so engaged by our teachers...we had little time for our revision...so I started waking up at 3am ...then when my classmates showed interest to do the same...I took it upon myself to wake them every nite for over a month...to do revision together...what culminated was that...we revised systematically in the early hours of the morning...mastering most of the stuff...got relaxed during day since most of the revision was done at night...so we created discussion groups for the little time in the day...and indeed it worked wonders!!!.... when we start for the national exams...we passed with high grades!... Thanks to the night revision (intense preparation)...
From being delivered in this uncertain world...we tremble and fear...that's why we scream when we are delivered...then slowly as reivers...we meander our ways...and become part of the ocean...the world...!!!
On Aug 8, 2022 Fatima wrote on The Opponent Relationship Is Not A Contest, by Shannon Lee: