I have mixed feelings on the notion. I think it is only human for ones heart to shatter after something devastating, but like those Kintsugi pots that are put back together with gold, embracing the cracks and pieces, we come back whole even after something horrible. A recent time I had to grow from a little death was when I watched an undercover video on the tremendous pain laboratory dogs are put through when people test on animals. These animals were screaming in pain as people in lab coats injected toxins into them to see what would happen. I was sick and angry and hateful, but my husband reminded me of all the progress we are making to end that, and that the reason I saw that video was because the heroes trying to end it are in the labs recording the footage to gain awareness and spark change. Knowing that dug me out of my hole and inspired me to find ways to help in any way I can.
Agreed that no one human thought system embodies the human experience. I think of a TED talk about being a good conversationalist and the speaker saying "everyone is an expert in something," and that's true because everyone has their own experience that no other human can have. I reap what others have sowed pretty much daily. My struggles that I have today exist because my parents gave me all the things they struggled so hard to get to - stability of home, support to get through difficult times, etc. Without their hard work getting me here, I'd be where they were with my struggles.
On Apr 26, 2022 Weeble wrote on Two Types Of Heartbreaks, by Parker Palmer: