No one can make you do any thing unless you yourself want to do it.
If you keep aside your personal gains or ego nothing wrong ever happens and you do not do any thing wrong.
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From your comment it seems you too are facing conflict of other forces. You can get rid of your problem by meditation.
Conflict is only when you think that you are right.
You have to understand that other person too may be right.
You can not always be right. Try to understand the point of view of other person particularly your children.
Isha, I do agree to you that both the thing exist at the same time because without one there is no existence of the other. The more you love more you fear, lesser you love lesser you fear.
It is great to know that some one loves you and just at the same moment a fear starts in our mind : Will he continue me loving like this all the time? and so with one (Love) the other(Fear) has got existence and without the one the other does not exist.
When we take this in reference to God when we start praying god or get devoted to god or start loving god we start fearing , we may not do any thing to annoy him- and that way with one the other takes existence, if we don't love god we don't fear any thing.
Nidhi- If you like him it will be a comfortable union, and if you don't like the other person, the thing will be difficult. But you have no choice but to be in your own business. Better like the situation you are in and make the things good for both or you have a choice to leave or be unhappy.
In my case i would like to adopt my self to the situation and be in the business.
I very well believe in Mental Healing. I have found it to be very effective on me. I will share my experience and trust if it is passed on to others it will benefit lot many people who are suffering and are dependent on medicines. In this write up I am given my one experience and I will let my friends know the other ways I had used it.
I has a big problem I could not sleep after going to bed for many hours. Or if while sleeping my sleep was disturbed due to some reason I could not sleep again for hours together. In other words I was suffering with Insomnia.
I even tried medicines which were effective to some extent. But my problem still continued till again I got an advice from my old father.
He suggested me that I should treat myself with self treatment or in a way through hypnotic treatment.
I was advised to start chanting “My feet are sleeping, my feet are sleeping, my feet are sleeping….. then gradually move to my legs are sleeping, then my thighs are sleeping, then my abdomen is sleeping , then my chest is sleeping , My limbs are sleeping, My head is sleeping and finally I am sleeping.
Initially for couple of days it took long time before I was really sleeping but within a fortnight I could not even reach to my limbs are sleeping. And now when I get to bed I simply say I am sleeping and before long I am actually in Deep sleep.
I think there can’t be a better example than this to your own self.
I can assure, all those who are suffering with Insomnia will find it a best Self Treatment for there tortures Problem.
Please do let me the result if you try and find it effective so that it can be conveyed to thousands and thousands of persons who are suffering with this problem.
Inner forces do not fight only for evil or anger, there are many other types of fight goes inside us.
Many times it is between right or wrong, favor to one and disfavor to other, between love and duty, between friend and family what to choose. All the life we have situations where by we are unable to decide what to do and what not to do.
Hundreds and thousands of times in our life we have situations where by we have to fight with our selves to find what to do and what not to do and what is right and what is wrong. Lot many times there is no evil in what we are unable to decide. It is only the justification what to do in a particular situation.
Many a times we have a problem in our mind to continue with the present job and between joining a new Job.
So we are in conflict of thoughts and that is the practical problem we face in situations where there is no one to guide us. So what we should do at that time?
Many a times i have been in that situation with no answer.
At last I found a solution, which has never been wrong and I never had to regret.
That's what i am going to suggest all the readers. (The answer to this problem was given to me by my father whom i trusted well.)
If you are ever in such a situation just write the problem in few words or few lines. Keep it there for the night and in the morning take that paper as a letter form your son who is seeking an advice from you.
So now what you would suggest to your son in that situation?
What you would suggest to your son do the same and you would never be wrong.
I can swear, it has never proved to be wrong, in my life. I assure you if you do the same you will never regret for your decision in your life.
On Aug 10, 2016 Akshay Sadana wrote on When You Don't Choose Love You Choose Fear, by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross & David Kessler:
When you don't love the biggest fear is loosing the love.
Actually in our life when we love some one it is not we love some one, It is actually that we want other person should love us and he loves us.
When we say we do not love. It is the other person is not giving us response.
This fear of rejection is the biggest fear.