All Comments By Colette

On Jun 25, 2024 Colette wrote on The False Self From Childhood, by Eric Jones:

Very true. According to Dr. Gabor Mate, infants need two things: to express authenticity and attachment to caregivers: if you are taught by your parents that you'll only be loved if you don't cry, you learn to repress your real self (i.e. not express your authentic true self) in order to still get the attachment you need for survival. I think it's a real tragedy in our society that too many parents expect their babies to adapt to Mom and Dad's expectations, thereby repressing the child's true self. This creates traumatized people, who in turn, end up being traumatized parents. A must-read book regarding this is Dr. Mate's most excellent "The Myth of Normal" .

On Jan 30, 2024 Colette wrote on The Difference Between Knowledge And Understanding, by Aldous Huxley:

I had a momentary experience, 20 years ago, during my forest walk, that I can only describe (words can barely explain this) as a mystical revelation: everything dropped away, and all that remained was a dynamic state of full awareness, when the sacred context of Life was disclosed, a pure consciousness event of transcendence, an embrace by of Love, the most profound moment of my life, ineffable and noetic, and suddenly my whole being "understood". We are lived by Love, we must strive to live in Love, to align our hearts and minds with One/Love/All. Ever since then, I have come across many people who have had such experience, though they don't talk about it, as I don't either, because it does sound "nonsensical" to those who've not experienced this. Thank you for sharing this essay, every word resonates fully my experience: knowledge was 1John4: "God is Love." Understanding is living it fully, daily, wholeheartedly.